It's time for a long hiatus from this group

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Date Joined Feb 2005
Total Posts : 472
   Posted 8/30/2005 4:29 AM (GMT -6)   
sad  For the past month or so, I get the feeling that HW groups have lost sight of why we are on these boards and support groups. As much as I hate to say this, I am getting nothing at all from the group as of late. There are a lot of "neebee's" and they ask for help, however, the members that have been here for a while ae being " pushed to the side". As far as I can see, this is not a productive group at all. The spark is gone and the ability to help others has shifted a great deal. If I stayed, it would be outof obligation, not the enthusiasm of the posts. We post, no one replies. I asked yesterday for special "uplifting for the hurricane victims" and Rosie was the only reply. I am going to be honest and if it irates anyone, sorry. Perhaps if we thought of others with problems, it would help us in a way where we are feeling good about listening to others. If a member has time to share, they have time to respond. This is a subject that has been addressed over and over to no avail. I have got every reason in the book for these "overlooks" and that just isn't jiving anymore.
I wish you all well and if the time comes that I feel I can get something from this group again, I hope I will be welcomed into the fold once again. This reminds me of a story in the bible when a shepherd had 100 sheep and only 99 returned. He went and looked for that 100th sheep. People thought he was crazy to look for 1 sheep when he had 99 in his fold. Well, he said his fold was not complete without the 100th one. My point? ALl the members here are a lost sheep and need to find the way. If all we can do is complain and post our complaints but not reciprecate by trying to comfort others, then it is a sad day. I love you all and hold good thoughts for yu all. May God bless you!

There is no such word as can't. Can't simply means wouln't. Grab as much as life as you can. Future is a long way away for those who don't believe. Don't build a foundation of life on sand. It will take it away with the tide. Love a little more, be unkind a lot less.

Post Edited (Having2LeftFeet) : 8/30/2005 1:09:31 PM (GMT-6)

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Date Joined Jan 2005
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   Posted 8/30/2005 11:46 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey Sue,

Sorry you have felt ignored here. I think its the nature of depression for people to be "naval gazers" (thinking about self). When people start feeling better, they find other things to do with their time, so they don't post here anymore. If just a few of us post responses to others when we are feeling well enough to do so it can offer hope to those who are in the process bailing out of a crises.

I hope you find something rewarding to fill your time sis. If you feel up to it, stop back and let us know how you are doing from time to time.

I'd still like to know when you decide what to do about your back. I know that has been a very difficult decision for you.

Blessings to you sis!!
In His Grip,
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Date Joined Apr 2004
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   Posted 8/30/2005 3:18 PM (GMT -6)   
I guess I am just a dumb guy and don't get it. I have read, reread, and reread now again your post on Katrina and those in its path. I did not see then, nor do I see now that you asked for response to the post other than to keep those in the path of this devistation in our hearts and prayers. Just because I didn't post a response doesn't mean that I ignored your post or your sentiments. Like I said, I must be missing something, but believe me, it would not be the first time.

Sorry you no longer feel HW meets your needs. I know that it is the same in all aspects of my life. I get out of them what I put into them. There have been times when I have felt distant from the support here, and when I take the time to look into myself, I recognize the most change has occurred inside of me and the distance brought on by my state of mind and feelings, not what others have done. I remember my therapist telling me one time when I was really angry about something - Anger/resentment is a response to my feelings of entitlement or belief that things should be "my" way. Unfortunately there is no law of entitlement interacting with those around us. Good luck in the future wherever or whatever that might be.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.
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Date Joined Jul 2005
Total Posts : 247
   Posted 8/30/2005 4:44 PM (GMT -6)   
I did a post reply yesterday. Maybe I did something wrong and you did'nt receive it. Sorry. I said that when you thought of someone else you forget about yourself. Hope you find a sight that works for you.

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Date Joined Aug 2005
Total Posts : 8
   Posted 8/30/2005 5:56 PM (GMT -6)   
Wow, I think this site is about much more than reciprocal support. It's unfortunate that you feel so strongly about your recent experiences here but I fear you may have missed the whole point...Being depressed would not be an issue if everyone who suffered was able to push their issues aside at the drop of a dime and become consumed by the current problems in the world instead. In fact, it seems we would be much more depressed if we did so. I'm sure I speak for everyone in this forum when I say that we all identify with one another and are as interested in your stories as much as the next person's. However, if you think it is unproductive to be a part of this forum due to tardy responses, I would have to putfourth the idea that it is quite unproductive to slam a group of your fellow supporters due to lack of communication. I wish you the best of luck and hope you return to the forum very soon. I am one of the newbies but I plan on being here a long while, so hopefully our paths will cross again.

Take care Lefty.

Nicky (coquitlam55)
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Date Joined Jul 2005
Total Posts : 505
   Posted 8/30/2005 8:34 PM (GMT -6)   


I'm sorry you feel that way. I have found these boards to be an incredible outlet of support for me over the past couple of months. I have been struggling with chronic daily migraines and feel like I've been holding the door shut on my depression. These boards are a place I can come where other people understand how I feel and what I'm going through.

I do find the depression forum somewhat different from the migraine forum but I think it's the nature of the disease. One of the symptoms of depression is withdrawl from social interactions. I like this forum because I can talk to people somewhat annonymously which helps me interact with others.

I hope that you find what you're looking for somewhere else or perhaps consider coming back one day. I know I appreciate all of the contributions I receive. I don't respond to every message because I don't always have something to say. As you can see I can have a lot to say at times so I try to respond only when I have something meaningful to contribute. I'm sorry if I didn't respond as much as you would have liked.

I wish you all the best.

Good luck.

Coquitlam55 (aka Nicky)
"The world is full of suffering, it is also full of overcoming it." --Helen Keller
I try and remember this each day I have a headache that I'm not sure I can overcome.

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