I am new to this process as I really need help and advise.
I have been married for 11 years and together for 14 years with 2 beautiful children.
Until, 2 months ago I thought I had a great life.. Then my mother passed away suddenly and things began to change!
My husband and I have had a great relationship but over the last 4 years we have had very little sex but, always showed love and affection to each other. He was always my rock and visa versa. When my mum passed away he was amazing took care of everything and did more than anyone could have asked from him. The day she passed he organized the kids and spent the day at the hospital with me! Then, after a week that she passed things started to change as he changed.
There was little affection and he started withdrawing from me. He ran off on a fishing holiday to get time out overseas and, at the time I was really angry that he left me and the kids at a time I really needed support.
Prior to that he told me he did not love me, nor desire me and wants to leave! He told me I have a great support team (family and friends) and I don't need him. His own father passed away over 15 years ago under similar circumstances
at that time he took control of his family and after the funeral ran off on a 3 month holiday. He started making comments like : your lucky your did not have to watch your mum die over 3 months or you don't know how it felt wiping your dads crap whilst he was in a hospice! Its like he was trying to hurt me with words but slowly I am realizing its not my husband talking! He has cocooned himself away from me and friends however, still amazing with the kids. I think he believes I don't need him but, the kids do! We went to a party the other day and noticed he was struggling which, again is not him. Always the heart of the party and always having a good time.
He told me he knows he has issues and he has changed. He does not want to go to a doctor as, he thinks meds are not the understand! However, we have started counseling which is good! And today did agree to taking St John Wort vitamins. I am frighten that I will lose my wonderful husband forever! I tell him that I will always support him and love him and, he can not talk nor knows what he wants!