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Date Joined Sep 2005
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   Posted 9/26/2005 11:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey, everyone. I'm new, don't know where to start. All I know is that I need help and I don't know where to turn. I feel so hopeless, I just don't know what to do. I was taking prozac, but I stopped taking it because I didn't feel it was working. I just feel like giving up, I really can't stand the lonelyness. I know I don't want to die, but at the moment it feels like the only option. I don't know where my life is heading, I feel so stuck. I don't know, I guess I'm trying to ask, what can I do to help myself? I don't want to sit around feeling sorry for myself anymore.

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Date Joined Sep 2005
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   Posted 9/27/2005 4:02 AM (GMT -6)   
I found this forum a few days ago when my daughter called saying that she was in counseling and was learning that she was the most horrible person in the world. She told me she had threatened suicide a month before. She was still talking about it when she called me.

I had known for a long time that she needed counseling, but she thought not. She has been white knuckling it, refusing to get help for a long while--and there was no way to convince her that she needed to. She's also on meds now as well and doesn't feel so hopeless. The same girl who disappears out of my life for 6 to 8 months at a time is calling daily. Her mood isn't up to par, but she can stand her days.

Call some of the people you know. Talk to them. Someone will reach out to you and ask you to call back, offer to do something with you, or listen to you vent. They won't find out that you are having trouble unless you make the call. Also call a mental health office, better yet go to a mental health office and see a counselor. Go to your doctor, don't quit all meds, just because one didn't work.

Many years ago I went through a long depression. All that kept me going was knowing I didn't want to set a suicide example for my daughter and the rest of my family. Meds weren't as good as today, and even though I wasn't functioning, I refused to take what was available then. White knuckling is a hard way to go, I know I did it and it took a long time. In today's world that is not necessary.

I came to think of the period when I thought suicide was the only solution as when I was "stuck." I just couldn't see the options either. I was afraid. It stayed like that for a long while, then as a dear friend kept telling me, "when the student is ready, the teacher appears." There is an Iroquis Indian legend about that. It's too long to tell. Try a google search on John Campbell and magic or Iroquis Indian. My teacher looked just like what you would expect when you read that story.

good luck

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Date Joined Jun 2004
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   Posted 9/27/2005 12:03 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome blueone. Do you have a friend or family member you can talk to? If not, I find writing in a journal to be very therapeautic. Also, going for a walk daily can help elevate your mood.

Please go back to your dr. and try another anti-depressant. They are all different and there will be one that works for you. Tell your dr. how you're feeling. Just know that you are not alone blueone, we are here for you any time you need to talk. We're listening :-)
Take care, Softy

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   Posted 9/27/2005 12:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Dittto to what softy said.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.
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   Posted 9/28/2005 2:46 AM (GMT -6)   
sad  Thanks blueone - your word express exactly the way I often feel.  I unsuccesfully tried medicine and therapy before.  I decided to try and get help again, since I also don't want to sit around feeling sorry for myself.  Occasionally I feel as you described, therefore recently I contacted a Psychologist who refered me to a Psychiatris.  The docter changed my medicine.  I have an appointment with the Psychologist again on the 4th of October.  This time I hope the therapy will go better - in my previous attempt I found that I could not explain to the Psychologist how I felt.
I found that eating healthy and doing some exercise (even when I feel very tired) helps one to feel better.
A support base is important.  Do you have family and friends to support you?  I don't have that kind of support, but I have a desire to overcome this depression - I have a dream that I want to achieve.  Sometimes my goals makes me depressed since it seems unachievable, but most of the times I find that my goals helps me hang on.  Maybe it will help you also if you identify reachable goals for the day / week / month or your life.
Lets chat again
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