Very Depressed after an argument...

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   Posted 10/3/2005 5:29 PM (GMT -6)   
I am 17 years old and have been in and out of the doctors/hospital through the last year my life, I had an accident up at a ski lodge that kind of put my life on hold for a year or so... Within that year i have become very depressed, After my incident at the ski lodge i had post concussive syndrome, which they didnt know which was effecting my functionality i guess you could say, So my depression was being overlooked i believe. I am now diagnosed with something called Vaso Depressor Syncope, (not enough blood getting to the brain) causing me to feel sick and other isseus about to pass out.

I was out of school, not be able to live my teenage life and almost seemed like i was sheltered from society during that year of getting over what i was going through, which brought on the depression. I was put on prozac about 9 months ago and it has helped really well, although im still ocasionally having suicidal thoughts, I have never came out and told anyone directly becuase i guess im scared to, but i have hinted around and made sure they knew what i was feeling. My mom has been great through the whole process.

My senior year of highschool i am back in school, back in sports, to the average person, they would think im doing wonderful. I met this girl that has epilepsy and we have been dating for 8 months now. Although my depression is not daily, it only seems to come back when i get in an argument with sarah. Its really tough. Sometimes the argument can be a misunderstanding, or an actual legit argument. But it starts to get me to my lowest emotional point. She makes me so happy, we have never had real problems, but just arguments that i understand come with relationships. We are a mature couple and lead an adult relationship. Although i dont know how to stop myself from getting so depressed from having in argument with her. I get so depressed it takes me out of school, and my sports. I attempt to go to school when depressed but i end up coming home throughout the day. Like i said, when sarah and i are doing good... I am great.

It seems that im scared of losing her and she is plays the backbone of my wellness. But its getting to a point that she cannot deal with my depression every time we argue. It makes her feel guilty that she put me in this mood, That she was the cause. My depression gets to wher i go home and i cry, my mom trys to help me out and she does, but it feels like the world crashes down on me when sarah and i dont agree.

I guess what im asking is for help to try to overcome this and my wellness not depend on our relationship. She is so very special to me and we have so many great times, i really dont want to lose her. Thanks for listening


Heather H.
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   Posted 10/3/2005 9:13 PM (GMT -6)   

It was nice meeting you in chat. I hope that you follow through and talk to your doctor about these thoughts that you have been having. I know that it's hard to talk about it, but opening your heart is the only way to make things better for you. I would really love to hear about your progress, so if you think about it...pop over to fibro message board and post an update for me.

Take care of you and stay strong. We all care about what your going through, and I know that your mother would bend over backwards for you. I know that because I would bend over backwards for my three sons. there is nothing quite like a mothers love. Remember that!!!

Love many, trust few, alway paddle your own canoe!

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   Posted 10/3/2005 10:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome Attilio,

You've done a great job expressing yourself. Kudos to you. You have really been through a lot.

I would start by saying that Heather is right. You really need to talk to your doc about your feelings of suicide even if they are fleeting.

What you have suffered through your accident is a real loss. You will need to go through a grieving process which is similar to losing a loved one. Only for you, it is mourning the normalcy you felt before the accident.

When people have chronic illness they often go through this grieving process and their loved ones may go through it too. Life as you knew it is changed. I haven't read it yet, but there is a book out called "Good Grief". I have it on hold at the library, but I'm sorry I don't know who the author is. It is said to be a very good book about the grieving process.

I just want to make sure you have given yourself a proper chance to heal (mentally).

Don't be too hard on yourself for your feelings after a fight with your girl friend. I have five brothers and I can remember the many, many times of heart-sick days for them.

Keep us posted!!!

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   Posted 10/4/2005 12:12 AM (GMT -6)   
Hang in there. It is easy to feel down after a disagreement. The great thing is that you are learning to recoginze it which is the first step needed to learning to adjust thoughts and patterns. Good luck and keep facing forward.
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   Posted 10/11/2005 11:34 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Attillio~~long time no see hun!! You
have been in my prayers~and your
girlfriend as well~~I have missed chatting
with you. I told you in chat that you are a
very mature and brave young man! I
applaud you! Meeting someone like you
gives me hope for the younger generation!
I have faith in you and KNOW that things
will work out! Hang in there~~Keep on
Keeping on~~FAITH and TRUST my friend!
Remember that you have been and will
continue to be in my prayers!
May God Bless you!!!
"For those who hope in the Lord shall renew their strength.  They will soar on wings as eagles, they will run and not grow weary, walk and not be faint."  Isa. 40: 31 & 32
Love, Joy, Hope, Peace and Lots of Laughter!  Sandee

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