Forever ostracized

Has anyone else out there feel like ostracization doesn't end when school is over?

When u dont have many friends to begin with, making more friends is quite difficult.

When i was in school, i was always talked about because i wasnt in a circle of friends. I didnt really think a social life was that important back then. I was so shy i barely spoke. It would have been so bad, if people didnt keep pointing it out.

As for men, guys mid forties and younger will not go out with women who dont have a social life. Even though i am pretty and sweet, i get rejected before any possibility of a first date.

I wonder if anyone has come across situations like this?

There is nothing wrong with not being a part of a crowd. Doing your own thing is actually cool.

It is good to have a social life, but you still want to be your own person.

I hope that things get easier for you.

Hugs, Karen...

In school, I was a 'social nomad', never really found the 'group' I 'belonged to'. Books were my best friends. Not 'bookworm' schoolbooks, novels that took me 'away'. This has served me well as I now spend most of my time alone. I'm not 'anti social', I do enjoy conversing with others, unless they are ignorant idiots! Ha!

The easiest way I've found to start and develop relationships with others, general relationships, not just romantic ones, is to gather with like minded folks. I like gardening and have an easy time talking with other gardeners. I am active in Tenants Rights. Starting with a common interest first, then learning more about others (and myself) has brought me some very satisfying friendships, and a few romantic ones too! Even so, I still consider myself a 'lone wolf' and that's perfectly okay!

There is way too much drama out there and I don't have to invite it into my world!

You do need to be happy within yourself. That is always a good thing but its important to have a circle of people that care. Depression can make us lock ourselves away. Our friends and family are good helpers when the depression is winning.

I agree with finding like minded people. I volunteer at the humane society because I love animals. I've made several friends there. Try to find activities that get you out of the house and interest you. Its a good way to meet people.