Posted 10/19/2005 12:49 PM (GMT -7)
Years ago a teacher in our school system was wrongly being accused of unprofessional behavior. I was surprised to learn from him that he had never told his wife. I couldn't believe he was shouldering all the burden. Well, there were plenty of supporters, but why not tell his wife?

I asked. He said I want to go home to a place that isn't touched by this--where my life is normal. I think lots of husband's want home to be normal and simply would prefer to be left out of the loop. It's selfish of them, but it also works for the person suffering to some degree. Being able (or forced to) make unilateral choices is probably a good and when things do get better, that unaware husband won't have a lag period--that is, knowing so much that he continues to look for the bad and not see the growth.

bev
Posted 10/19/2005 3:18 PM (GMT -7)
Thank you everyone for your support. I made it through my session. I still feel it was a waste of time but it was not as traumatic as it has been in the past. Mostly because he did most of the talking! Worked for me.

It is so comforting to have a place filled with such generous, giving people.

Thank you all . . .

Peace,
Robin
Posted 10/20/2005 3:35 AM (GMT -7)
Thanks Bev and Robin, yes I guess leaving husband out of loop may prive to be the best thing. We will see. I do not discuss what happens at my school with him, but its real hard to keep him out of the loops when it comes to his children and their mental and medical needs, he doesn tlike to hear about this either, thats what I find hardest of all to shoulder my self, especailly when it concerns finances, they have to have there medications. And I cannot afford this by myslef, and I know he is struggling to pay for the meds, I am searching for a supplemental ins to cover the co-pays. To the government we make to much money to qualify for any assistance, but to us we dont make enought ot cover everything, and we are not living frivoulousy, we are just getting by the best we can, finances can sure put a stress on a marriage that is already stresses. His mom is in the hospital again, please keep her in your prayers, we are really worried about her. Thanks again for listening....
***Take Care.....Sheryl***
 
SERENITY PRAYER: "GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE; COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN; AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE........

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