depressed for over a yr please help.

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   Posted 10/21/2005 4:03 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone i'mnew to this site and wanna get out of my depression but dont know how. it all started on july of 2004. I was in a relationship with a girl for 4 yrs. and she was kinda of being weird on me. then 2 wks later i got into a horrible car accident where i almost lost my life. I broke both legs and had my foot severed. when i finally woke up from it which was 3 wks later i was lost didnt know anything and the only thing i remember was seeing the girl who i loved.i was happy to be alive and to see my girl.well after i came home from the hospital she started to become distant from me and told me she wasnt happy with me anymore. she behind my back started to have a relationship with someone else in my weakest moment.well things led to me not talking to her anymore. i was doing good and finally healed up a yr later. i was getting my life back in order and bam she decided to come back and tell me she loved me and not this kid she started a relationship with. so i started to get these feelings back for her. but the thing is since she said that to me i havent heard a word from her for wks. so then after a couple of wks i called her up and asked her why would she do that to me. i was already depressed from her leaving me and her coming back kinda of brightened up my day.but then she told me she's with this kid and realized that she didnt wanna get back to me. now the depression really hit hard. all i keep asking myself is why is she doing this to me. and it seems nothing can help my depression and sometimes i tell myself i would of been better off if i died in the accident. so if anyone can help out please do cause i dont know what to do with myself anymore.

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   Posted 10/21/2005 6:01 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi and welcome,
Goodness, what a rough road you have had!! Sorry if I offend you but this girl doesn't sound as if she's too good for you right now.
You need support, not to have your chain jerked!!
Have you seen a doctor? If you haven't considered therapy, you sure have a ton of baggage that you could get off your chest!

It would NOT have been better if you had died. My brother was killed when he was 14 by a drunk driver and the pain you would leave behind is unimaginable.
In the meantime, this is a very caring group of people.
Let us know how you're doing!!

Peace, Sadsunshine

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   Posted 10/21/2005 6:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi & welcome. First off, I'm really glad you didn't die in that accident and I bet your family is extremely thankful :-) That must have been a long, painful recovery.

You know, this woman truly doesn't sound worthy of you. Personally, I would move on and find positive people who uplift you to fill your life with. Remember, when you love somebody, you want the best for them.

Life does and will go on and I pray you see that :-)
Take care, Softy

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   Posted 10/21/2005 6:30 PM (GMT -6)   
Depressedone or is it depresse done (LOL) small attept at humor. Are you getting professional help for your depression? I know that it helped me tremendously to seek out help from a professional to address many of my long term problems with depression. One thing that I hav elearned over the past couple of years with threapy is that my own happiness is found in me. Doesn't make it easier but it does help me to face the trials of living with a chronic illness easier. Good luck, keep in touch, and I hope you find the answers you are looking for.
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   Posted 10/21/2005 8:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey there and welcome to our home,
I too am very glad you did not die in the accident, you sound like a very warm and caring person who was in the wrong place at the wrong time. stay away from your ex, it seems like she is more harm than good ( I'm sorry if that hurts you) it just sounds like she is playing head games and right now you don't need that, you need understanding, counseling and meds to help you back to a happy life again. please make an appointment with a Dr as well as a therapist. You been thru so much and now your body amd mind needs to heal. Please feel free to ask us anything or to vent we are all here for each other, take care and cyber hugs to you.

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   Posted 10/22/2005 3:09 PM (GMT -6)   
well the good news is she finally came out and told me the truth. she's done with me and has moved on.but after doing some serious damage to me.the long road i've gone through so far i dont wish upon anyone. I see things so differently then how i did.i dont get how someone who supposedly means so much can do things like this??? sad   I meant to tell her that i wish she never was there when i woke up after being unconcious and on life support for 3 wks.cause she was the first person i saw i wish it never was her because she's nothing in my life right now(seeing her is what made me feel the way i do about her). i wish it was someone like my sister who cared so much about me and still does. out of all this tragic crap that's happened to me the only good thing is the relationship i have with my sister.but the downside is i dont trust a single person nevermind a female. trust to me is such a big issue right now and i dont feel that anyone is trustworthy anymore. and another thing in general about everyone is that everyone takes everything they have for granted. I'm lucky to be walking and I take that into consideration on everything i do.I just got a new job and i guess i'm on a road to recovery again.but i wanna thank everyone for their support it means alot to know people who dont even know me can care just enough to write some positive feedback. so thank you everyone for the support.

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   Posted 10/30/2005 2:31 PM (GMT -6)   
depressed done, just read your story, I know exactly how you feel. Isn't it terrible that one person can cause so much pain and heartache. I too don't trust anyone, especially those who I once thought I could depend on who have let me down. It's funny how you can find some comfort from total strangers. Agree ? Hope your new job is going good, and that life is treating you well. If you'd like to talk more, let me know as you can email me. Hang in there, beyondblue

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   Posted 10/31/2005 4:58 AM (GMT -6)   
I too am glad you lived. Can't say I don't blame you for trusting either, but you can trust again and will when you meet the right person. I had it bad--I not only didn't trust, I hated men with every fiber of my body. 2 1/2 years later I was in a relationship with a wonderful man. Life with him has been everything I ever wanted: companionship, similar ways of thinking, having fun, teasing, humor, laughter, and yes, love. We've been together nearly 20 years and while other things have changed, those have stayed steady.


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   Posted 11/7/2005 4:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello. It is goog you didn't die in that accident, that accident had to be rough.

I would move on, as a previous respondent said, and find opther people who make you feel good about yourself and life, not drag you down.


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   Posted 11/7/2005 6:00 PM (GMT -6)   
I also know how you feel and seeing as we're sharing stories- i'll tell you what bought me here:

I was in a very passionate 11month relationship with my first love who asked me 2 marry him and then cheated on me for the second time with my friend who he is now going out with. the first time he cheated on me was on valentines day with one of my other friends the day before an abortion that i had to have, he then dumped me the day after i had it. then we got back together and little did i know he was seeing us both but then they broke up and everything was ok for a while. meanwhile my mum and step-dad are getting a divorce because she fell in love with the man that she was having an affair with (who is a drug dealer) and they both have a coke habit. she can't be around at home because my step-dad won't leave so i never see her and i don't like my step-dad very much. so i became completly dependant on my ex- boyfriend and he was my only reason for living. but then he cheated an i tried to kill myself and whilst i was in hospital for 12hours on my own begging him to come and stay with me, he was having sex with her. he then dumped me for her and now they're together. but the other week he told me he still loved me an we had sex again and then he told me it didn't mean anything and my friend told his girlfriend what happened so he thought i was stiring and never wants to see me ever again! and i talkd to her the other day cos i felt like i should apoligise and she told me she didn't care that he'd cheated on her cos she 'doesn't love him or anything'!!

So that is my saga and belive me it feels quite good just to get it all out. but i know exactly how you feel. betrayal really is the worst loss.
But then as everyone tells me if a person can do that to you they're not worth it. i know it doesn't stop me loving him, but it helps.
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