Posted 11/1/2005 8:54 PM (GMT -7)
Sorry sis . . . sometimes newlyweds have huge adjustments to make.
My marriage is 26 years young and in our first few months, I had horible thoughts that we made a mistake too. SO many things to adjust to!!
At one point, I made a list of things that I thought were important to him . . . something like this:
time with each other
time with friends
beautiful hair and makeup (on me)
etc. etc. . . . Then I gave him the list and asked him to please prioritize it so that I might know what, exactly I should be worrying about first. He never did prioritize that list . . . I think he realized that it was a tall order to throw the whole thing at a spouse all at once.
Eventually, we came to know what really were each other's priorities and we worked hard to provide those things for each other.
Don't be too hard on yourself or him . . . just make sure you keep communicating with him and remember to have fun. Sometimes its just the spirit of things that is off.
BTW . . . we REALLY enjoy each other after many years of trying to make things work. It was really worth all the effort we put into it.
I hope things become more manageable for you sis . . . if you know you are depressed make sure to get some help. It turned out that I really do need a bit of rx meds. Its not a bad thing unless you just do nothing to try to fix it.
Keep us posted!!