I agree 200% with your points 1 and 3, probably no2 but not no4.. but don't worry unlike you I have the family from hell! In my early years coming to terms with the CD it was "for goodness' sake pull yourself together and sort yourself out" but if I did it was "you seem alright to me so what's the problem" see it was a no-win situation..
Anyhow regardless of all of the pain and suffering I've had with the CD since 1978 I would not erase it out of my life from the last twentyseven years, even if I could, it has burned out of me the selfishness and greed I had and made me more caring patient and thinking of others suffering and what I can do to help them. That and my super-powers of course.
'Consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds' - Emerson