Posted 11/25/2005 11:17 PM (GMT -6)
Hi Cathy89
I also have Crohns. I want to ask you a few questions, OK?
Because of the stress of all lifes problems, are you taking care of yourself? As a mother and a wife, us women tend to put everyone first.
I am on disablility. It is a hard row to hoe. Your home all the time. Are you prepared to have him home all the time? Also, if you will think about this for a moment. If he gets disabiliy, he may get stuck in the house and not be able to come out. Thats what happened to me. I have a wonderful husband, but because he did the shopping and all the out side responsabilities, I didn't have to go out. Now we both regret that move. I have made great strides to "come out", so to speak. I just want you to know that, if you think some times about leaving him, if he's under foot all the time, and he gets stuck in the house. It will be even a harder life. Somtimes what we think will be an easyer road turns into a much harder road.
Just wanted you to see the other side of things. It's something to think about.
Ill talk to you again if you want
Posted 11/26/2005 1:26 PM (GMT -6)
Hi Angeline53,
I recognize you from the Crohn's forum... yes, I am taking care of myself. It's been hard putting myself before everyone else for a change but I'm getting better at it. yeah
Luckily, my Crohn's is not too severe, it does run thru my entire colon but I haven't needed any surgery for it yet (I was diagnosed 16 years ago this month). I've been getting Remicade infusions every 8 weeks since April 29, 2004 and it's working wonders!
I do work (I'm a Paraprofessional... which is a stressful job) so I'm not home 24/7. Ron and I have discussed the Social Security Disability issue and agree that it's a last resort but decided that we should at least start the ball rolling because it takes so long. He would rather work but finding a job hasn't been easy because of his disability. Unfortuantely for him too is the fact that he was never given any responsibility when he was growing up and he always heard "Ronnie, you can't do that" by his parents. He was told that he was dyslexic but nothing else, so his mental health issues were pretty much ignored until his father passed away 13 years ago.
I have gone over all the different senerios and keep coming up with one constant: even tho Ron's mental health issues will never go away completely (like my Crohn's), he is getting help. The day he tells me that he doesn't need any more help will be the day I tell him to pack his bags!
Amazingly, since starting the Paxil on November 9, he says he's feeling a lot better and he's not afraid to leave the house. Unfortunately, he's got no way of going anywhere right now because his car's in the shop. He does go for walks with our son which is good... I get peace and quiet for a little while and they have time alone together without me butting in..... lol tongue  
Thank you for your insight... I always appreciate learning how other people cope.
TTFN ~ Cathy


Posted 11/26/2005 11:39 PM (GMT -6)
Glad things are getting better. Sometimes you have to just give life time, and it turns around. Hope everything continues to bring you two happiness.
Posted 2/12/2006 6:45 PM (GMT -6)

Hi Everyone.... Sorry I haven't checked in lately.... been busy working and my son has been using the computer a lot for school stuff.

Anyway, things haven't really changed here much. My husband is still looking for work, unemployment ran out a couple weeks ago and we won't hear about Social Security Disability until March or April. He's still doing well on the Paxil but I still think the real test will be when he goes back to work.

I think I might need to contact my doctor about depression. I've been very irritable lately, crying over the littlest things, snapping at people for stupid reasons.... I could go on and on but I won't.

Well, that's it for now.... time to dig out from the 14"(or more) of snow... the plows just came by so the driveway needs to be cleared.

(((((HUGS))))) to all!

TTFN ~ Cathy


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