Posted 2/12/2016 4:36 AM (GMT -6)
Chrispcat, wow! That would certainly upset my applecart. First, let me say that I am so sorry that his sickness affected you so terribly.
I'm a bit confused. Did his widow contact all of you or the daughter? I'm thinking the daughter.
Keep in mind, she might be saying 'good' things about him to see if any of you may refute it. A sort of fishing expedition.
If she was an only child, she may just be trying to make a connection to 'family'. I don't think there is anything wrong with telling her that your experiences with him were apparently nothing like hers, without jumping into details. Above all, be true to yourself. Don't let anyone pressure you into a meeting.