I read a thread lastnite about
someone who cant express feelings!!Well my problem is similar,I can tell my wife Ilove her as I do every day,but cant tell her when she ticks me off as she losese it at me,,my problem is I have been having a hard time dealing with myself,my job my wife ...just alot and as some of you know I am also dealing with my wife who is a severely depressed person ,she is taking meds and they do help most of time for her depression and anxiety..but when they dont I have to walk on eggshells and lately I am walking on them ...I have been doing this for so long ,I take her insults ,criticsm,mood swings her lack of wanting to do anything,I cook,clean the house which I dont mind doing (i like my cooking better)and even the cleaning(vaccuum cleaner even thou we only have two roomss with carpet usually take me a good half hour as believe it or not is my peaceful time ..can only hear my thoughts then)..but If I dont clean all the time which I dont always feel like doing she flips out,she suffers from stand and drop disease which is wher ever she gets un-dressed is where the clothes stay ....they never go in hamper ..argghhh...
But my prob is I have tried to ask her to help ,in a pleasant manner...didnt work...I tried not cleaning for a long time ...didnt work made me sick and zi did it myself..I cant say anything to her without her getting upset or mad latly.
we have gone to counselling in the past didnt help ..i guess she wont or cant help herself...It just makes life really miserable,dont get me wrong she has been doing good up till last few weeks and I ask her but she just says she dont know whats bothering her...What do you do???I am not sure what to do any more???My head is sore from containing everything Argghhh....!!!sorry so long but feel somewhat better getting all tha off my chest!!
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.