Im dating someone with really bad depression help.

Welcome Kristen,

Has your BF been diagnosed with depression? If he has was he prescribed medication and does he stay on it?


Most people that are depressed and do not wanted to be around their loved ones, also do not want to be around other people. I would try and talk calmy to him about this. Perhaps his he stressing over being a new father and needs some reassuring from someone.

Perhaps a clergy figure, father, mother etc... even the family doc or gyn. Can help you both get over this change to responsibility.

You definately need to talk to someone about your anxiety. Your doctor would be the BEST place to start. It is not unusual for new mothers to feel this way. Especially with the lack of sleep you get and the worry of a new born.

If indeed it is depression and he has not received any help yet. There is not much you can do, until he is willing to want help.

The best thing you can do is take care of yourself and the baby. So you are there if he needs you. Remember, your health is primary for you and the baby.

Peace and strength
Trina

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Post Edited (BnotAfraid) : 7/29/2016 11:10:20 AM (GMT-6)

good, i edited my post for you.

Maybe you can get him to call his doctor for make an appointment with him.

Just like your anxiety over the new baby, I am sure he is feeling it too.
Keep posting we are here to support and listen best we can.

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Kristen:

Glad you reached out for help. You're getting a lot of good support. Keep posting and giving us updates.

You said, "but he comes home has a 5 sec conv with me and then goes over next door to our friends all the time and i just felt like he didnt wanna be around me but i guess its just his depression? how can I help him?"

I guess he feels he's doing his part by working, which in a way, he is.

But maybe it would be nice if he could help out with the baby when he gets home. But, after working all day, he feels he needs some relax time.

The baby could use a mother and father in the home. But ideal and reality can be two different things. Try to prepare yourself to be the breadwinner if sperm father leaves, or you leave sperm father.

Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Think positive as to, what am I going to do if he keeps treating me like a jerk?

Do I have an education? What kind of work would I like to do? Maybe check on the net or with a lawyer, will he have to pay child support if we break up?

Who's going to take care of the baby during the day? If he pays support, maybe you can stay home and take care of the baby, or get the support and work, also.

Keep your good attitude and keep doing what's best for you and the baby, and making efforts to keep you three together.

Work on it one problem at a time, and be positive about that problem.

We know one thing: the baby's got a good mother. You get full credit for that here. May sure you give yourself credit, also. The baby tells you that everyday.