Difficult Decisson to make

if you do decide to go ,I would for sure ask her why she didnt return any calls ...it may have been mis-commiunication.

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God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

I guess I am going. Never called her today to cancel, actually I had too much going on to even think of it til it was too late. That tends to happen sometimes with me. I also have ADHD and forgetting things is common. I havent forgotten that she never called though. Just mainly to decide and call if I decided to cancel My friend told me to write down to ask what the problem is. I told her not to worry, that I won't forget. I think I will approach it something like, I have been worried about my blood pressure and what I should do, that is why I called here twice. Since I do not know where the problem lies, I cant outright accuse anyone. I hope what I am going to say sounds alright. I will for sure let you know what happens.

Chelsi

Well I went today. She said I did not look real good. We talked about my situation (being unemployed) and she said I needed to go out and hit the pavement. She said she wants me to do 2 interviews a day. Well that would be great but I have no clue how you arrange that. I really don't know what to do. If anyone has any suggestions please let me know.

We were nearing the end of my appt. and I said I wanted to know what to do about my blood pressure and she said that was for my primary dr. I am off the med that she says can cause an increase in blood pressure, but I had been on it for a long time and noone has ever said anything about my blood pressure being high when I have had dr. appts. So, at least we know she gets the messages. At least I hope she has. I did mention to her before about the blood pressure, like at my last appt. when I was getting ready to do. Now I am afraid she thinks less of me because I bothered her with something that wasnt really hers to deal with. I know she is busy. She showed me her patient scheduel today and I mean it was back to back from earlier this morning.

Chelsi

Thank you for your answer blackessence (hope I spelled that right!) I have had depression all my life along with ADHD. My pdoc things I could be bipolar II but I am not sure about that. A lot of the symptoms are the same as the ADHD. I really like my pdoc. There have just been a couple of incidents with calling her (there was an instance before this one) but it should have gone to my primary dr. I have seen him. We are just going to watch it. One of the problems (the first one) cleared up after I went off one of the meds. She has returned one of my calls which was related to her. I think it would have been nice if she would have had someone call me back on those 2 instances and tell me to contact my primary dr. but it didnt and we have it straightened out.

As far as the depression goes, I do see a therapist, but while it gets bad at other times, it has never affected me at work. I have never missed a day of work because of it and I can fake it so noone knows. But right now it is really bad due to 2 major things going on in my life, one, is the holiday season and two, I am unemployed and looking for work. Most jobs I apply for are online. I have had some interviewes and are working with some temp. agencies. My problem is that I don't know things most of them want such as Word, Excel ect. I am taking a class next semester at the comm. college as I have to take another comp. class in order to graduate with my 2 year degree. I am worried about what type of references my last employer is giving out. I have talked to my former supervisor and she said anyone who has called has been sent to the regional offices. I can, for $35.00 find out what they are saying. I know I am getting good reviews from other employers.

I do pray about finding a job but get frustrated that nothing is happening. Every Sunday in church during our silent prayer I tend to pray for some other people I know who are sick, some with things that could end your life. I tend to think of others first. That is just me.

Chelsi

James...thank you for the vote of confidence. I wish it was as easy as leaving them off but prospective employers are doing reference checks. I understand after doing some research on the internet, alot of employers tend to spill their guts. I don't know what mine is saying. I have not heard back from 2 temp agencies that were trying to get references. One wont work with me if they don't get a yes to if they would rehire me. Sure, I made some errors, but nothing big or anything like that, and besides, doesnt everyone make mistakes? The last one was so stupid. I was filing some files back. I left one (a very thin one) on the top of the cabinet and someone was looking for it the next day. My super checked all the drawers as I did for misfiling. When I told her I found it she was upset because she had sent an email out for people to look on their desks. My best friend said that night that they always have to look for files on their desks but noone gets fired. I mean when I did make errors they were small ones like that. So, why can't they say anything good on a reference? That is what hurts so much. I did alot of good things there. And people wonder why I have no self-esteem and feel worthless. Sorry to go on like this.

chelsi

Hi Chelsi,

 

I'm chiming in late I know...

 

Your experience with your therepist not calling you back.... Of course she's busy; it's her job to be busy. It's also her job to be there for you and that includes returning your call or having someone on her staff return your call. It was important to you; you have every right to be angry about her lack of professional consideration.

 

Next visit, ask her how you should handle such a situation in the future. If you call and she thinks it is an issue for your primary doc, then tell her you expect her to convey that to you---you are not supposed to be in a position to have to guess why she isn't returning your call/answering your question. She of all people should know you have to communicate with words, not with guessing. She can easily have a staff person call you and tell you that.

 

about the job. Hitting the pavement is old-school, although it can work. Better yet these days is registering with an agency. They find jobs in all kinds of areas of work. Check them out in your yellow pages, and go to their web sites. Many times you register on line, then go in and talk to them (take your resume) and they will do any necessary skills testing. Since you are using a computer, you have computer skills, so they will probably have you sit for an online computer skills test so they can know what jobs to send you for. Rarely do agencies charge fees to the applicant; now days they are paid by the companies hiring. Many companies use agencies for all their hiring so they pay the agency instead of having someone in the company to do the interviewing, etc.

 

You can find full time work or temporary work through an agency. Some people like doing different jobs so they do temporary work and work a while here, a while there... And some agencies even offer benefits after a period of time.

 

I hope this helps! Best of luck to you!!

Nanse

 

 

Hi Chelsi,

Supposedly former employers can only say what dates you worked for them, but I know there are ways around things like that.

You may also want to check your library for computer classes. Also, they may carry material for you to use to learn at home. (our library carried the Dummies series of books for Windows, etc.). You could do this while waiting for your classes to start.

Also, in reality you may have to take a less desirable job just to stay employed to keep your resume up to date. It will show you are willing to work wherever necessary.

The comment your counselor made didn't go over well with you; I hope you'll mention it to her for your peace of mind.

Keep us posted on how you are!

Nanse

By law, employers can only give the dates you worked for them, and whether they would rehire you. They cannot give out any details.

Before my illnesses, I always found good jobs through temporary agencies. This time of year is a hard time to find a job; most companies aren't hiring. I worked as a legal secretary for many years, and found my best jobs through employment or temp agencies. It's a good way to see if you like the company, and if it's a good fit, more often than not, they'll keep you on. Also, temp agencies have free training on different word processing programs, etc.

Getting your typing speed up would open up a lot more job opportunities also. If you are interested in secretarial work, starting out as a file clerk or receptionist are easier positions to get, while you hone your skills.

Two interviews per day sounds extremely excessive. I know where I live, most companies require you either fax or email your resume to them before interviews are even considered.

Suz