Thanks, I hope my answers help make things better for others. I've been through a lot, studied, watched, and worked to get better my whole life. Wanting others to have it easier and better has been part of that and a natural progression from it. I never thought about it before, but it just ocurred to me that my life has primarily been focused on finding good solutions to bad situations--for myself as well as for others.
I worry that my answers might be too hard to accomplish in the present or not the right answers, and that my manner of speech (opinionated and direct) might overwhelm posters who come here for help. That would be bad, since getting to a better place in one's emotional life takes time.
I die in the water when it comes to "cheerleading" and that is as important as, or often, more important than information, so I've been a bit sad that when I post, people don't jump in, letting other's know they have been in similar places too.
As to professional counseling, I've never been interested. I've never heard of a life coach and don't know beyond what it sounds like, what it might be. I appreciate the support and kind thoughts, but really, I wish I'd had a better life and had become some sort of scientist.