Again--cymbalta! It is for both pain and depression. I didn't write much, because as you saw if you looked at the 9 posts there is contention on the forum about
it. My daughter has completely turned around on it, and as far as I'm concerned it is a wonder drug. However, in good conscious I can't recommend it without also saying learn all you can about
it, so you know the downside.
First, you are asking for a cause of the depression. Shrink stuff says that you need to know to get better. Well that's hokus-pokus. In your case, that's the chicken and egg question. The answer just isn't there to be found.
Just after cancer surgery threw me into menopause, my husband and I separated. He took our sons and turned them against me with his lies. I lost my home, our business, a heck of a lot of money. I had the IRS threatening to put me in jail for something my husband had done during the separation. He could be scary, so my friends wouldn't testify for me, and he talked my mother into testifying for him. I watched in amazement as friends believed him and fled like rats from a sinking ship. The police, judge and both our lawyers believed him in every dispute. He gaslighted me until I didn't know what was real and what wasn't.
I went from living in the "best" part of town, to living in a 100 year old shack, with $50 a month from my husband for support, and no ability to work, because of my broken state of mind. My daughter's christmas presents came out of a dump, AND those weren't the worse things going on in my life or mind. He drug out the divorce, slowing destroying everything in my life until he had sold all our property and made sure the house was foreclosed on. He pocketed everything and the courts let him. He lied about
his income, so my daughter got almost nothing in child support, and he left me with one thing $80,000 in debt. And none of that was the worst of my life then.
Can you tell me what I was depressed about
? I still don't know and it's been 25 years. My issues were about
a man hell-bent on distroying me, my reputation, my life. He would have been happy if I had committed suicide--and yes I thought about
You have the very real issue of pain. You have depression for whatever reason. That is what is real. Let go of worrying about
the genesis and concentrate on treating both the chronic pain and the depression.
Assuming the losses are what caused the depression and the pain has nothing to do with it (like that could be real!). People get over losses. So you can go into counseling and search your past for the weakness in you that allowed them to get such a grip on you--or you can treat it with medication--and let time heal the losses.
Assuming the losses are due to pain--and again you come to needing medication. So that is why I say consider cymbalta, which was designed to treat both.
I wouldn't do drugs then--some were pretty bad. I went to counseling, joined groups, read 106 mental health books and did so many things to put myself back together that my head still swims when I try to think how I got back. My daughter is having some difficulty and she is taking cymbalta--from what I've seen in her, I wish, I'd had it available and not spent all the time I did in misery. No matter though. Today, I live the life I always wanted, depression free and happy. I am sorrounded by new friends and I am a better person than I ever was before. Can't ask for more than that.
Post Edited (bevhea) : 12/16/2005 4:36:39 PM (GMT-7)