" He was on anti depressants but only for a short time"
That may be part of the problem. He knows what the problem is, he knows what the answer is, but at 31 and single, it conflicts with his social life.
Anti-depressants and alcohol, for instance, don't go together. So, if he wants to keep dating, he can't be taking any anti-depressants.
So, he 's got a conflict. At, 31, better to be able to date and drink than to get along with his family. Much better.
You say, "He's got worse since the ex started seeing him again, using him if you will, them started seeing someone else and stopped all her endless texts and phone calls and invites to dinner. I warned him not to get involved but he has to do what's right for him. The trouble is now he is by far worse than he's ever been."
Even as a single senior citizen, I know how that female thing can be. I had a woman I was trying to help, give moral support and whatnot, and after a year of that we'll say, she cut off contact with me.
I figured, she must be dead if she didn't want to see me, or something like that, so, from watching too much detective TV, I called the police department and ask them to do a welfare check on Jane.
Well, they did, and she was OK, and it turned out she wasn't laying on the kitchen floor passed out, she just didn't want to talk to me, and she was not pleased that I had called the police to her house.
And like your son's friend, that's they way they do it, they just don't answer their phones. Well, I didn't know that.
As it turned out, she had a boyfriend, and she really, really didn't want to talk to me again, until she broke up with her boyfriend and then she wanted to call, something close to that.
And with just the talking on the phone, it's a huge letdown. So I can imagine what your son is going through with this on again, off again, full relationship he was having with this woman. It's like falling off a cliff.
And it will happen the next time he meets a woman. It never ends.
So I think that might be the conflict: Wanting at 31 to live the life of a single guy, and not wanting to lead his life on an anti-depressant.
He knows he has only so many years of his youth, and he doesn't want to give away any of them.
I think everybody is doing all they can.
Again, one problem at a time, and be positive about
Post Edited (Tim Tam) : 5/10/2017 3:16:15 PM (GMT-6)