I lost my son in Feb of 2005 and just keep talking, morn and grieve all you want but talk about
it too and remember the good times you had as well as the bad times. A loss of a family member or a close friends hurts, and usually doesnt make sense, so grieve in any way that makes you feel better, and dont stop because someone wants to be stupid and say "get over it" truth is, you will never get over it, you will just learn how to move forward
Good Luck and all my prayers are with those that have lost.
Hug Your Children Everyday, and Tell Them That You Love Them