Sometimes I read "unsafe" posts on here as if we are supposed to be "happy." How can we be happy when our brain is making us cry for no darn good reason? That is the monster of depression. It's a body snatcher. I am literally a different individual when depressed who feels tormented, terrified and despair from depression. Is it rational? No. Can I control it? Honestly, no.
So well stated! It's not something that we can just shake off, or as I so often hear, "let go". But I know what you mean about
"unsafe" posts. Probably not the best word for it. Granted they are well intended, but again perpetuate the belief by others that depression is something that can be overcome simply by thinking happy thoughts.
getting by said...
I know that, I am a depressed person too, but what makes them "unsafe"? Like as if it is detrimental. I have not seen that here. I worry as a moderator about "unsafe" posts... Sometimes when we are depressed we can't see the positive and focus on the negative. Sometimes all it needs is to try to see the positive and be happy. Sometimes there are larger issues there. I think everybody here means well...
Perhaps counterproductive might be a better term, albeit with way too many syllables. We all get it from people who are not in the same kind of place we might be when depressed. Most often our thoughts dwell too much on something from the past, which we cannot change anyway. But hearing "just don't think about
it" is like the big sign saying "do not push the red button".
I recently posted about
Effexor. It has been great for PTSD and OCD, at least for me anyway, and with it I can usually chase away the tendency for my thoughts to linger in dark places. The memories are all still there, but I am able to put my mind to other thoughts rather than get caught up in the spiral and fall over the edge. Almost to the point where now I wonder what life would be like without it. I'm hoping that with enough experience training myself to say "I don't want to think about
that now" that eventually I may move from Effexor to something like Cymbalta, which may be more effective for osteo and neuro pain. But enough about
Emo - I don't know what to suggest. As it seems you say you have good friends who understand, you are way ahead already. Sometimes you do need someone to pull you out of the pit and get you back into something like a normal life. Often you can't pull yourself out of the pit without a helping hand. But don't dwell too much on your problems with friends, or that understanding might get worn pretty thin. No one wants to be around a Debbie Downer... which unfortunately only keeps the vicious cycle going.