First of all We're both in our early 30s although I'm inbetween jobs so I've been unemployed. We have been talking for about
1.5 months but together for about
a month and as of about
a week ago I asked her out officially and we were exclusive before that. Up until a few days ago....she was great everything I've ever wanted in a girl. We get along on so many levels and think the same way about
many things, we disagree about
some small things but who doesn't?
I accept her for her and all her flaws and I thought everything was going well. She started a new stressful job as of a week ago as well, says she feels like she's drowning at work. She also said that she has had mild depression for a long time and when she was younger, attempted to take her own life at some point. She said that she stopped taking her depression medication not too long ago due to the side effects and does this once in a while so I didn't think anything of it.
But she broke up with me yesterday stating that it was a variety of things: she just moved recently, feeling like drowning at work, depression, needing therapy for her ex who was apparently very abusive, and that she felt like she needed to figure or fix things out on her own. I could tell something changed the day after I asked her out officially, she got more quiet, more snappy with me, she said she was feeling depressed and needed to stay in for a few days and cry and wanted to be alone. we had planned to hangout a few days later this would never happen.
She was planning to hangout with me the day I got back from moving and was alright with it up until the afternoon before we were going to hangout she kept saying yeah i'll see you then. until she all of a sudden broke it off with me. In closing she said that she still liked me, and when things got better and if I was still single she asked to give it another try. I asked her if she planned on staying single for the time being she said yes because having someone else would not help her problems. I asked how much of what's going on right now has to do with not taking medications, she said it probably has at least a little to do with it. After that I asked how long do you think therapy will be? And she said I don't know once I get my medications stabilized I should be feeling better but I still have this new job and I feel like I'm drowning at. And I just said just message me when you feel like you're ready to start talking again or have things in order in your life.
I do not have depression myself, but I am hurt and trying to understand. So from someone who has dealt with depression, does this happen? Will she ever come back? Or am I getting played and this is just a way for her to break up with me in a nicer way? Please help, I'm sad. edit: I also wanted to add, I'm trying to understand why she felt the need to break up with me? I mean I feel like she could've just told me she's been very depressed and stressed so we should just hangout in a month or something. But to break things off? I mean this has a finality to it I don't understand. I mean I hear people who depression want to be alone, but was it necessary to break things off? Or is it I guess that she's just not that into me?
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