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   Posted 10/22/2017 2:02 PM (GMT -6)   
My failed job history over 22 years didn't work out as planned so I have never been able to get off the couch which is kinda a dark hole.

fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression, allergies

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   Posted 10/22/2017 6:02 PM (GMT -6)   
Let's welcome Dark hole to the forum guys.

Not having energy is a symptom of depression. Are you taking any medications for your depression? Do you use coping skills? We can help you by giving advice on what works for us.

I hope you stick around and I hope you feel better.

Hugs, Karen...

fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression, allergies

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   Posted 10/23/2017 8:07 AM (GMT -6)   
When I applied for SSD I had to go down to the unemployment office and get a printout of my work history for the prior 15 years. It should not have been 4 pages long!

My income is less than $700/month from SSD. Horrifying, isn't it?

It is not what I had imagined for my life.

I now have a refrigerator magnet that says "I do many things well. None of which generate income." This reminds me that although my 'work history' isn't great, I am not without skills. I like to garden and am continuing to learn about it. I can help my neighbors not make some of the mistakes I did.

I have a sewing machine and make my own slip covers for my patio furniture and Halloween costumes for friends and family. I have never made anything with a store bought pattern...just translate what is in my head into the fabric. The same with crocheting.

Are you a good listener? Do complex issues make sense to you? Are you good at explaining things?

Guess what I am trying to say is...we are more than our 'work histories'.

A tip was given to me early on in my 'couch days'...set a timer for 15 minutes...lay on the couch and 'feel' whatever...bell goes off, so something constructive...clean the toilet, was the dishes, take a shower...reset timer, lay on couch again...bell goes off, do something else constructive...reset timer...repeat as necessary. In this way, I was able to 'manage' my depressed episodes and still get things done! Give it a try.
multiple surgeries for rotator cuff both shoulders with residual chronic impingement syndrome, ulnar nerve transposition, carpal tunnel release, multiple wrist surgeries, multiple herniated discs, tarlov cysts, whiplash, bursitis of hips, grade 5 right shoulder separation and torn labrum, ovarian cysts, fibroid tumors of the uterus

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   Posted 10/23/2017 11:44 AM (GMT -6)   

It is hard when we loose a job we love or after years of working, can no longer work.

It makes us face, what we do not want to. We are NOT our careers. We are not our work.

As a person we are so much more, HAVE so much more to give in this life, empathy and compassion to ourselves and other people..

I think starting by talking to your doc, honestly and in detail and getting therapy is a great start!

Peace and strength
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Post Edited (BnotAfraid) : 10/26/2017 1:15:52 PM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 10/25/2017 6:56 AM (GMT -6)   
welcome, we hear ya mate. sending peace and strength.
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