Tim Tam said...
It put me in the middle of some human dynamics such as, I was helping some people, some people were helping me, and some of the people I was on same level as. All of that was therapeutic... working with some of the patients and seeing how rough a time they're having and maybe your mental energy will turn from your problems to theirs. That's what I'm doing right now, helping somebody else, when I probably have as many problems as they do... And with some of our problems, we can often help others who are having difficulties by telling them, "Guess what happened to me one time."
Thanks Tim. Unfortunately I have limited mobility, so walking pets and delivering meals is not practical.
However, I have been spending a lot of time with other cancer patients. Often they are scared, and lonely, especially those newly diagnosed. Naturally I have met several who are far worse off than we are (my wife and I both have cancer) and in sharing our experiences they often feel encouraged by the successes we've had in our own struggles. It helps to keep me out of the 'why me' pit of despair.
And I am rewarded by the feeling that I have helped someone. And though I have no medical training, I can often share tips to help them with some of their problems, such as the ravages of chemo or difficulties at home... things I've learned through experience or discovered in my own research, as I remember everything, which is a curse as well a blessing.
Tim Tam said...
So, you're seeing that the doctors don't always get it right, which is good. And you not stopping at that point, you're doing a lot of the research on your own.
Just recently I had an awful scare... the appearance of what might be yet another cancer. Some tests are positive and others negative. So at least for now I have been spared the dread of further treatment. But not knowing is still a big concern.
Yes, doctors have been wrong with me before, far too often unfortunately. But at least for now I can enjoy the holidays with my family and will jump back into the treacherous waters In January. By then it will likely have grown or gone away.
Also I have recently begun to see a therapist, so now I have someone outside the family that I can talk to, and perhaps able to provide some useful guidance.
Thanks again for your reply!