I would consider not going to her parents' 50th wedding anniversary event around the 17th of this month.
It will give her a chance to "find herself" as she gets the opportunity to explain to her mom and dad why her marriage collapsed at 20 years, and theirs is now at 50 years.
What is she going to do, get mad at you? She's already been furious for months.
It will give her a chance to grow and give her experience in attending such events on her own.
She has trounced on you for months, give her the chance to gain confidence in her newfound freedom and independence.
She's destroying you and all you're worrying about
is her "feelings."
It would give her a chance to test the waters of how well she's going to do on her own.
I think you need to stop worrying about
her and start dishing out some things to her as part of your program to gain your independence and letting her fend for herself.
It will be good practice for her and for you.
Every man for themselves. All bets and niceties are off.
Post Edited (Tim Tam) : 11/7/2017 9:03:09 AM (GMT-7)