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Myself 09
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   Posted 11/9/2017 7:14 AM (GMT -7)   
I had a disturbing incident this AM with one of my regular English students. Her parents were having a very violent argument in the kitchen, while she was online in the living room. Her little sister ran between the two rooms--crying and wanting comfort. My student wanted to do something that took her out of the circumstance all together. She wasn't listening to the lesson, really, but she was listening to my voice and my tone, telling her she was smart and good. She is around 7-8 years old, a hard worker, and very smart. It is hard to be powerless to help, but far more difficult to be a small, helpless child.

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   Posted 11/9/2017 8:32 AM (GMT -7)   
I know how troubling that is. I hope it didn't go beyond arguing. And I hope it isn't often. Families all have their fights, but as I well know, it can be traumatic for children.

I think that you did the best that you were able to. I am sure your comforting words helped her.

Hang in there Myself. I am sorry that it happened. I also know it is very difficult to study when there is arguing going on. And when feeling insecure.

I hope that your day gets better.

Hugs, Karen...
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   Posted 11/9/2017 10:22 PM (GMT -7)   
wise words from karen. keep strong. if it continues.......then your intuition will kick in.

Myself 09
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   Posted 11/10/2017 8:47 AM (GMT -7)   
There is absolutely nothing that can be done--the kids are on the other side of the globe. The only thing I can do is be there and be warm when we are working together. I couldn't even ask questions to confirm the child's safety--we don't have the language in common to do that. The classes I held this morning were normal and uneventful.

Thanks all.

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   Posted 11/10/2017 9:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Uneventful can be good. I hope you have a nice day and weekend Myself.

Hugs, Karen...
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   Posted 11/10/2017 9:41 AM (GMT -7)   
Myself,

I challenge your thinking that absolutely nothing can be done.

Nothing legall by our stand point perhaps. However, EVERYDAY, that you teach this child you make a difference.

I know it doesn't feel like it sometimes. Try to remember that knowledge and education are the biggest stepping-stones for children to feel like they matter and live better lives then their childhoods.

You handled that situation admirablely. I do not think I am idealizing to say that this.student will remember this moment of compassion in chaos.

WELL DONE!

PEACE
Trina
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   Posted 11/10/2017 3:08 PM (GMT -7)   
Yeesh, M09 - that's a tough situation. I'm impressed by your ability to honor the boundaries required. They say the true mark of a professional is doing what you're contracted to do, even when your world screams at you to do something else.

Respect.

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   Posted 11/11/2017 5:14 AM (GMT -7)   
May God bless your kindness and give you the wisdom to help.
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