A message from my ex

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vanessi
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   Posted 12/31/2017 6:51 PM (GMT -7)   
As i have said it has been a really bad time recently, i wish things would be different in my life, my ex texted me tonight to wish me a Happy New Year, i will write exactly what he sent:

"I know it's early for you but i just wanted to say Happy New Year...xx hope you are good, we should talk soon...if you want.."

My response: "Happy New Year, i hope you have a really good one. I hope you are good too."

Then he said: "So it's 2018 here and i just wanted to let you know that you have made 2017 the most unforgettable and amazing year of my life...you are the most incredible woman i've ever met in my life and you will never leave my mind for as long as i live...xxx"

Me: "My 2017 was amazing too, Even though now it is a nightmare. Anyway it doesn't matter now, i left smth at home for this day too, it is in the drawer where is the laptop, open it, it is over the keyboard. Then you can dump it. Have a nice year and enjoy, i hope you find everything you are looking for."

he: "i will cherish everything we had together...you blew my ****ing mind on countless occasions... i never deserved a woman as incredible as you but you made me feel like the King of the world..."

And that is it, personally i feel so bad about this, my feelings for him haven't chaged and i love him but i feel really bad cos i feel he is trying to play with my mind. I haven't changed my mind and still wanna recover and i will take a break from him, i will disappear from his life as he wanted. I am so hurt and my day is terrible, i am so sad and depressed.

Thank you all of you for being here even today, please help i feel i'm gonna breakdown in any moment

BnotAfraid
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   Posted 12/31/2017 8:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Vanessi,

I read your other posts

I agree with Karen. He gas done this because he knows this is best for you. I am 56, so I can see it.

You will appreciate his actions in time. He is a very kind person apparently.

You need to move on. Your life is not over, there is so much in store for you!

The people you will meet, the adventures you will have,.thw woman you will become. It is all in front of you.

Don't waste this precious gift of life he is giving you

Mindful.org is a great place to start

Peace
Trina

Peace
Trina
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"...when the gift of sight is cause enough for jubilation."
Billy Collins from the poem. HIGH

DX: reverse Trigeminal Neuralgia;Cluster headaches; Atypical face pain;Hemicrania Continua; raynauds;complex PTSD; recurring MDD,disassociative disorder;

Post Edited (BnotAfraid) : 12/31/2017 8:47:41 PM (GMT-7)


vanessi
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Date Joined Dec 2017
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   Posted 12/31/2017 11:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Trina, but why if we love each other we have to separate, i can't understand that. I mean for me love is more than a number or having someone to spend during the weekends.

It is gonna take me so long to recover, he wants to keep in touch, i just can't, this is so much for me.

Myself 09
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   Posted 1/1/2018 10:29 AM (GMT -7)   
Then you write and say, "I am sorry--I do not want to stay in touch. It is too hard for me. Thanks for understanding."
Ulcerative Colitis 2003, Fibromyalgia DX 2005, Crohn's 2013, Enteropathic arthritis, 2013. Family History of Fibro--2 out of 3 siblings diagnosed. Started SCD-June 2013. *There are three kinds of people in the world: ones who see the glass as half-full, ones who see the glass as half-empty, and others who see a big crack in the side which is leaking all over their %$#@# foot

getting by
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   Posted 1/1/2018 11:34 AM (GMT -7)   
I agree with Trina and Myself. You don't need contact when it hurts you so much. Take this new year and make a new you. Do things that you would enjoy. Be good to yourself. There is so much change in life. You never know what will be there for you the next day, hour or minute. Life is too short. The older you get the faster the years go by. Make this new year for you!!!!!!!

Hugs and warm wishes,

Karen...
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BnotAfraid
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   Posted 1/3/2018 1:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Vanessi

The fact that you can not understand it, shows that your at not mentally mature enough. This is normal as you are so young!

There is nothing wrong with you. He should have never started a relationship in the first place. He obviously realized his mistake and decided to man up and do the right thing.

I promise, in time, you will see this as a gift.

Peace
Trina
Moderator - Depression

"...when the gift of sight is cause enough for jubilation."
Billy Collins from the poem. HIGH

DX: reverse Trigeminal Neuralgia;Cluster headaches; Atypical face pain;Hemicrania Continua; raynauds;complex PTSD; recurring MDD,disassociative disorder;
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