No, no, no, he was deffo not a scammer in any shape or form and never asked for money. Frankly, he would have been bitterly disappointed if he had, given how broke I am.
Yes, maybe you are right about
the embarrassment, guilt, etc. I certainly think his 'flight or fight' response was massively triggered; I could almost feel
the panic emanating from his final posts. So not immediately responding is understandable/forgivable; not responding once you've fled and have had time to calm down and think things over isn't understandable/forgivable. I live with shame, sadness, guilt, etc. every single day of my life.
No, I've been involved with the gardening group for a long time, a year and a half. I haven't made a single friend. Ditto the other social groups I've tried over the past two years. That probably says far more about
me than the groups themselves, I dunno - in fact it probably does. I just don't 'click' with 99.99% of people. It's made 10x harder by the fact that I am usually depressed and thus not even really capable of joining in with the group chat and laughter. It has been better in the past than it is now. But even during the good periods I never progessed beyond being acquaintances with anybody.
It's so bad that I can't remember the last time I made a new friend in real life. I really do wonder sometimes if the problem is actually all me.
But yeah, adults in their 30s and older seem to join groups for fun and relaxation, not to make new social connections: they're already married, got children of their own, etc. That leaves online dating, something which I don't think would be good for me in my current state of mind.
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