Unfortunatley I am the ill spouse. And yes, it is normal to feel bad sometimes. What has helped me the most is learning not to let the ups be so up and the downs be so down. Good luck and I hope you find the answers you are looking for.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.
Dx'd with Crohn's at age 12.
Symptoms since age 5.
Learning to live with this Disease rather than be its victim after 34 years.