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Labradorite
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Posted 8/13/2019 12:34 PM (GMT -7)
Hi all, I’ve posted here s few times but more in the anxiety and crohns forum. Depression anxiety have been tolerable for a few months. But today I found out I made a mistake/ typo at work that’s pretty significant. It’s something going out to thousands and has the wrong date for an important event. I’ve been making a few dumb mistakes like this despite rereading everything. Cost my employer tons of money on this. Even if I don’t get fired for it I’m thinking I should resign. Just can’t stop thinking about how I’ve failed at even simple tasks. I’m not sure if I’m over reacting or whether that is the right decision.
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ForeverPositive
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Posted 8/14/2019 4:18 AM (GMT -7)
Everyone makes mistakes-even your boss.

Has the invites gone out yet? If not, it can always be corrected. If it has, maybe you can notify people of the corrected date via email?

Having anxiety and depression skews our perception of things. Yes, your boss may be annoyed but maybe not to the point that he wants to fire you. It also likely that mistakes like this has happened before.

I don't think you should resign. Wait and see what your boss says.

Post Edited (ForeverPositive) : 8/14/2019 6:47:22 AM (GMT-6)

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getting by
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Posted 8/14/2019 1:01 PM (GMT -7)
Hi Labradorite,

I like your name as I like the labradorite stone. Unique... The name I mean...

I agree with FP. I wouldn't resign until I learned what happens next. I know you feel bad about it but everybody makes mistakes. Hang in there...

Hugs, Karen...
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Labradorite
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Posted 8/14/2019 4:35 PM (GMT -7)
Thank you both! It really hit me hard and drudged up a lot of the feelings I struggled with last year of being a failure and left me immobilized. I’m better today. My coworkers were supportive. All of my superiors are angry but also missed the mistake when it passed to them for review. My boss has her own issues and loves to tell me how none of these mistakes would have happened last year (before I was working in this position). Brags to people outside our company how much she misses our former employee that I took over for around me.

@Getting By thanks for spotting the connection! Labradorite is my favorite stonesmile
So thankful for all of you in this forum.
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Buena76
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Posted 8/14/2019 5:05 PM (GMT -7)
Hi Labrdorite,
I wonder why the former employee left? Was because of your boss? That would be ironic.

Congratulations on feeling better today. That means you've made progress putting your past mistakes behind you. I had a similar thing happen a couple of weeks ago at work that brought all up sorts of terrible feelings from long ago. A few years ago, it would have put me into a major depression and I might have quit my job. but I got better in 2-3 days and it turned out not only fixable, but not to be as big a deal as I thought it was, either. I was proud of myself for that.
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Labradorite
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Posted 8/14/2019 6:32 PM (GMT -7)
I’m so glad you have been doing better too Buena! It is amazing to look at the changes in perspective and reaction over time and see the progress made and where there is still room for growth.
He left partially to persue another degree but also had had enough dealing with the dysfunction and had complained outside of work about it. It’s why so many others have left. Ironically I believe she has a psychology degree and likes to try to manipulate people with her so called knowledge of it (has bragged about this). It’s so hard to try to piece out which dysfunction is mine and which is related to the work environment.
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getting by
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Posted 8/15/2019 7:56 AM (GMT -7)
Sounds like a toxic environment Labradorite. Tread carefully. It is people like her that karma will visit. But when is the question. Just don't let her make things worse for you. It isn't worth it in the long run. Unless you are holding your own. But that is hard work for most.

I hope you have a lovely day. I am off for a walk with my dog.

Hugs, Karen...
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BnotAfraid
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Posted 8/15/2019 9:13 AM (GMT -7)
forever

also glad you are doing better

most likely since it passed thru the review of safety net people, it might be rescheduled. This happens a lot in business. Mistakes and oops happen at the highest levels!

I always. asked myself if my bosses were so good at their jobs, why are they so unhappy and mean? Why does my work end up be the buck stopper. Do they not know their job?

Many people in this world are promoted for the wrong reasons.

May I suggest that you put a resume together, don't post in on the internet, your boss might see it and make your job more miserable. However, look for jobs on there internet or search for companies you would like to work for. The best jobs have not opened up yet! Submit resume with a cover letter, better yet, go to the business and ask to see the HR department.

The person to person system still beats out the virtual. Shows character and initiative.

Peace and strength
Trina
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Labradorite
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Posted 8/15/2019 2:18 PM (GMT -7)
Thanks guys. I have been looking for other places . So much potential and good coworkers with this job but low pay and these situations. I fear though that they have overlooked a lot of my mistakes and short comings that another place would not put up with. Also waiting til I finish dealing with some family issues before making any job moves so I know things will be more stable. Made another error yesterday after a heated discussion with between boss myself and another coworker about things not going right that led to a hour long phone call with her after work that didn’t go well.
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older guy
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Posted 8/17/2019 10:49 AM (GMT -7)
about mistakes, everyone makes them. I find it very interesting that the flyer or information in whatever form was checked by others. Don't they have responsibility like you do, to make sure the info on the flyer is correct? Sounds like some blaming going on.

I have about 30 years experience working in offices. Some are toxic and some are ok, with some toxic people in them. My suggestions would be, seek out those people who seem happy or content, who support you even in your mistakes. It's easy to get freaked out by a boss who is a blamer. But that is just one person's opinion. If she is shaming you, that can make you feel like a failure. So as I said, find the content people and put more energy towards them.

Another situation will present itself eventually where you have to proofread something, and I'm sure you'll be more careful. The more "pairs of eyes" that look at it the better, especially if it is important.

Just my ideas...
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BnotAfraid
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Posted 8/18/2019 6:42 AM (GMT -7)
Labdorite,

drat!

Here is a link to mindful.org and I did a search on mistakes at work for you. I believe if you just do some calm breathing after negative interactions, or thoughts you can focus more and get the tasks done correctly.

Once a person is berated, it is hard to refocus, however is it possible! These are just emotions and emotions can be changed and energy from the encounters redirected.

https://www.mindful.org/?s=mistakes+at+work

I wish you peace and strength
Trina
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