Sorry, that you are going through this. It's totally uncalled for. As mentioned, it's none of his business what you do in your life.
Some people are plain "idiots". They like bullying people to make themselves feel better and bigger. They especially like to bother the kind and quiet people. Perhaps he is having home or other problems and taking his frustrations out on other people. Maybe he's jealous of you for some reason. I'm guessing, he was like this in school.
There are millions of people who are unmarried without kids who are quite happy with their lives. Others, who can't find their soulmate. Even some who marry their soulmates get divorced. I've read that a lot of the Millennials have no desire to get married after seeing so many other people getting divorced, including parents and aunts/uncles. Some want to dedicate their lives to their jobs, some hoping they will build up their finances, so they can enjoy their retirement of traveling, etc.
Maybe you should look for one or two of his weak spots. Then when he bugs you again, you could throw that in his face. Of course, that would be a last resort, especially if you think he is a better fighter.
My Hubby mentioned that one because he was bullied in school and at work a few times, since he was only 126 lbs. during those times. Then he took martial arts classes and built his muscles up since he figured something was going to come up again at some point. Sure enough it did several times and he dealt with it both physically twice and verbally. He made a fool out of the other guys. My Hubby is a kind, smart but quiet Guy(he's not quiet with me
). No one better push his button or he'll figure out a way to put the abuser out.
Of course, going to HR with your complaint would be the first choice since bullying is supposed to be 0 tolerance at school and work. If a person is being harrassed then neither party is able to do their job properly.
Do you get councelling or a therapist? That is helpful too, if you get a good one.
You are definitely not alone by a long shot. Good Luck getting rid of the .........!!
Post Edited (msOuchie) : 10/4/2019 7:21:32 PM (GMT-6)