Looking at the positive, that's nice that you've been able to pay the same rent for so long. My people raise my rent yearly and I am already paying well over market - but I get it, they don't rent the place for fun, it's a source of income
. It's just a shame that people who can't afford to own a place end up paying more than a mortgage on a rental while the landlord does zero and collects WAY more than they need to, and we are schlepping to a job daily while they sit back and do nothing, but such is life. I was born into the wrong family!!!!
Perhaps it will all work out for the best for you. You may find a place you like even better. Have you looked at any places? Three years to retirement, and a retirement home, but it's not near where you work? It's a pickle. I wonder if there's a way you can rent a room for cheaper and spend weekends at your other place if it's within easy driving distance? Sounds like you're working quite a bit though, and that does burn you out. You need to take some time to yourself. At least we have the holidays coming. That will be a little break. I really wish every few years, people of all ages and genders, got a few month break "sanity leave".