Is It Too Late To Change My Life?

We've all heard that expression ' it is never too late too change your life', but I've been wondering lately if this is true.

I am stuck in a career that I don't like and my personal life sucks . Yes, I am trying to change my careers by applying for other jobs, but I'm not getting any calls and most of the job postings I see want people just out of school-darn ageism!

As for my personal life, well, it is really non-existent. I have few friends and not married or in a relationship. My only close family are my parents and my brothers. As much as I like being single, and not answering to anyone, I do fear growing old, alone, and becoming a 'cat lady' ( not that I have anything against cats). I've tried online dating, etc., but I haven't met anyone, despite doing online dating for a while. I understand that some people meet there significant others through dating sites, but most of the guys, that I met ,are just plain weird or emotionally unstable or unavailable.

I started off 2020 optimistic and full of hope, but my optimism is slowing turning to pessimism. I'm started to feel like 'what's the point in doing anything' nothing will change and I'm just too old. I know that it is a horrible thought to have, but I can't shake it. I don't know anymore... maybe I feel this way because of my depression or nothing is happening as quickly as I like.

It is never too late for change. Change is inevitable. It always happens. So don't give up.

I was told if you don't like your life, change your attitude. There is something to be said about that. Though it sounds crazy. If we change the way we look at things, often we see things in a different light. And get the feeling that things can get better. So I try to do that when I can.

I am not into the dating sights, mostly because I am married, but I would fear meeting a psychopath or something. So be careful. Be safe...

I hope that things get better for you. Maybe you are expecting too much too fast. Take things one day at a time. Things will change.

Hugs, Karen...

HT:I love hearing about that 90 years old uni student. It is so inspiring...You are so right, the only barriers are ourselves.

Gettingby: I really want to change my attitude. I know it's our attitude that affects our perception of situations. It's just so hard for me as I've have a negative mindset. I do think I'm expecting too much too soon. I've always been impatient for things to happen and am trying to learn to take things slowly.

OceanFisher: Online dating scene hasn't worked for me although it has for some of my friends who found their significant other. I don't go to bars, but I am a church member. I actually got baptized a few months ago and really like my church. I initially started going to church because my mom keeps stress how important it is to have a 'church family' and find fellowship with like minded people.

Unfortunately, most of the men in my church are either married or much older than me. There also seem to be more women than men in church. I suspect most churches have an uneven ratio of women to men.

I went to my therapist today and told her how I felt. We came up with the idea of keeping a goals journal. I would list a few goals to complete every week and check it off as I go. It might be a little less overwhelming and encouraging to see that I complete the goals listed. She also suggest that I have a goal of sending out at least 3 resumes per week which I think is doable.

I think part of my attitude stems from the fact that I've been stuck in a rut for so long that I think it's normal. I'm also fear change although I'm completely unhappy where my personal life and career. I also have no confidence in myself.

It's amazing how certain life experiences can knock a person down and make one jaded. When I was in my 20's to early 30's, I was so motivated to fight for what I want. The older I've gotten, however, the less motivated I have become. My therapy session today helped me realize that it's not about being motivated to do something, rather one action regardless of feelings. So I'm going to get a goal setting journal and take things slowly.

Miss FP,

You need to find a church which has more single men attending. Please don't get the idea I think all church people are perfect. I am in agreement with your mom in that having a church family is great for support. I have had so many people bring over dinner on nights when I was too sick to cook. Also if your faith in God is something you live by then ask God to help you find the right person. I can honestly say it worked for me. I was a lonely person who prayed to meet the right person for me. It worked. I don't want to get too religious here as it may be against forum rules.

I think it is amazing when all of you kind people open up about your needs and what it is you want out of life. I learn so much about people here on the forum. I truly am sorry for all that others go through. I go through much myself.

I want to say this. As long as you have your health, there is always hope. Believe me when you feel terrible most days and live in pain its so very hard to enjoy your life. I know everyone here is depressed or anxious. I am also. Just be thankful if otherwise your health is good.

I enjoy reading everyone's coping techniques and how they live their lives. I am sorry for each and everyone who is hurting. Truly I am. Depression and anxiety is so difficult to live with and through.

Please feel better everyone
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I think it's never too late to change your life unless you're stuck in a nursing home with five days to live or something like that.

Don't wait for change to come. Instead, go out there and make changes. Achieve goals!

Some people say that it's too late for them to change their lives...to turn their lives around. And so many of them are wrong about that.