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Posted 2/15/2006 6:43 PM (GMT -7)
This is my first time ever on a message board.

My doctor has been mentioning depression for a couple of years now, in December I finally went in crying, ready for help.  She gave me a sample and perscription for zoloft.

I started taking it but did not tell my husband until three weeks later.  We had been in counseling for almost a year,

he has a temper, I hold everything in to try to keep him calm and happy.  I have spent 15 years trying to make sure he was happy, and have neglected myself. No physical abuse here, just me growing up and him not.

Anyways, one day he told me what a miserable person I have been, so I told him about my doctor visit and that I am taking Zoloft and trying to get better.  He did not even know what zoloft was!!!!  Now, he says that he does not like me taking it, that our society can just pop a pill to make everything better. 

Also, oh boy, I have absolutely NO desire for sex anymore, which makes things worse for him.

I lost five pounds my first month on zoloft, but now I am gaining!!!!  And I have no willpower to try to stop gaining.

Does anyone understand???

Posted 2/16/2006 5:53 AM (GMT -7)

Hi Daniella,

Yes, I understand what you are saying perfectly.  My ex-husband hated for me to take any antidepressants and was against medications in general.  When I was diagnosed with MS in 2001 my med supply went up (of course) and he was always complaining about it even though they were to help my symptoms.  He didn't really care.  It just was him being controlling.  So I can sympathize with you greatly.  When you have a spouse like this it is really hard not to lose yourself in what they what and need.  

It is good that you are in counseling together so you are making an effort to fix whats wrong.  Also that you recognized that you were depressed and took action to help yourself.  That is so great!  Maybe talk to your counselor about this and they can intervene with your husband. Hopefully?

As for the weight gain, you can make an appointment with your doctor to look at this.  A lot of people have this same problem with Zoloft.  I was on  Zoloft for several yrs and didn't really gain much weight on it.  I did make a point to change my diet and watch calories, fat and carbs.  This made a big difference.

Welcome to Healing Well forum.   We are glad to have you.

Posted 2/16/2006 8:53 AM (GMT -7)
If loss of sex drive and weight gain are a problem I would discuss it with your doctor. Also if the zoloft isn't working after 4 weeks. There are many different anti-depressants out there. I'm sorry your husband isn't real supportive but I would keep going to the counseling.
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