I'm sorry there is so much bringing you guys down...
Pitmom I don't have children, and I am way outside the box.. .
I don't think Q-TIP Skill will work, maybe radical acceptance with your daughter. Once there consider how to put self kindness first.
GARDEN QUESTION PITMOM:
Here is a link to my posting of flowers from my side yard
Do you know the name?https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10215351706866348&id=1846355780