Yeah, I know all too well. One of the things that I was most obsessed with for probably the last 10 or 12 yrs is that he didn't serve any prison time and basically wasn't punished for what he did to me. A judge let him off with 6 months in a mental hospital and probation. He was allowed to remarry to a woman who had a young daughter. Who he also molested. Now he is on the states sex offender list. The judge might just as well of took him into an elementary school and said pick a child.
Anyway on your earlier post, I was thinking about my ex-husband. He works for a computer software company and makes really good money. When we were together he always was like if his friend Joe got something new my husband had to get one too. No matter the cost. They liked to go fishing all the time. So my husband goes out and buys a boat. If there was something that he couldnt get he would get upset of depressed about it. And sometimes even obsess over it. I wonder if this happens more with men or women. Like women obsess over clothing. I always have to buy new purses and shoes. Stay in style and have the latest jeans and things like that. Men with electronics and cars. I don't know.