Posted 4/18/2022 5:51 AM (GMT -6)
My point is there is a lot of stuff about sexual interaction I don't understand. The basic birds and bees and the physical process is simple. The way people talk about it, mock others for it or lack of it, and the way it's treated like a contest has caused a lot of trouble with my self-esteem.
When I was a kid The 40-Year-Old Virgin was treated like Citizen Kane in my peer group. I wanted to be happy that I had any friends at all but the message was "get laid or you are miserable". Over time there was Elliott Rodger and the "incel" business.
Logically I know I have done nothing wrong, and that sex does not guarantee happiness and can even be the source of a great deal of misery. But it's hard to get my panicky monkey side to listen.