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Date Joined Mar 2006
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   Posted 3/3/2006 1:48 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello all.
   I've got something bugging me and I can't quite put my finger on it.  Brief description,... I'm 24 male, back in college after an Associates degree and 3 years as a design engineer.  I currently work 30 hours per week and take 18 credit hours, the problem being is my memory.  I've always found it hard to remember dates birthdays, etc., phone numbers, road #'s, but it has gotten to the point that after 4 to 5 weeks of classes, sometimes I couldn't remember when the class started.  I find myself taking too much time over trivial tasks that everybody else breezes through, aggravating me more.  Lately, I've noticed that my temper is increasing although I am very easy-going, but with all the uncerntanies associated with life, work, and school I've found myself being quite mad over the simplest of matters.  Also, when it comes to figuring out complex problems, it's like my mind doesn't work.  Sometimes when people are talking at work and I'm working, I have no idea what they've said, almost to the point that it doesn't sink in! 
Any ideas on what could cause lack of memory, although I've always been terrible at remembering!
Thanks for any help!

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Date Joined Oct 2005
Total Posts : 4031
   Posted 3/3/2006 8:17 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi schoolboy,  Welcome to Healing Well forum.  There are lots of kind caring people here always willing to help each other.  Also this site can be a never ending supply of information for anything that you are going through or question from mental to medical.

In your post you didn't mention anything of feeling depressed or having a past history of depression.  So I would wonder if this is really the cause of the problem that you are having.  It could be caused by stress but I would be more likely to think that you may have a touch of Attention Deficit Disorder or something more along these lines.  Have you ever been checked for this?  Or you could have a medical problem going on.  Maybe check with your family doctor and speak to him about it and see what he says.

I also have had the same problem all through my life.  I am 32 now and working on my masters in psychology.  In school I always just thought that I was not a smart as everyone else as I had to work harder to remember everything and study more.  It was very stressful for me.  Anyway, I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis in 2001.  This disease fatigues you to no end. I was put on Ritalin to combat the fatigue and since my memory recall has improved greatly.  My attention span I am able to focus on what I am doing instead of everything else.  I have not been tested or diagnosed with ADD.  So I don't know if my problem is because of ADD or MS, I just wanted to note.



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Date Joined Feb 2006
Total Posts : 344
   Posted 3/26/2006 8:21 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi schoolboy -

I also wanted to welcome you to the HealingWell forum. It sounds like there's a lot on your plate right now, going back to school and working can place additional stress on anyone. I know when I went back to school after being in the "real world" for 5 years, it was a struggle to get back in the groove of studying again. I would find myself not remembering what rooms my classes were in or opening up a textbook and not understanding a single sentence that was written in it. What I found helpful was actually writting down the class name, date, location, and any other pertinent information on my folder for that class (either on the outside or inside) so that I wouldn't stress myself out in case I couldn't remember. I also carried around with me my class schedule, for the first few weeks, because I couldn't remember which classes were on which days of the week. To me, it seemed when I get stressed out my brain just automatically shuts down and I cannot even process simple conversations. So, I tried to find ways to limit my stress level and find ways so that I don't have to remember everything. The more I can write down the better. For example, after I got all of my class syllubus's I used a different color highlighter for each class and put all of my assignments into my planner. That way I had a quick reference to what was due when.

I also found it extremely helpful just to hang out with other folks after classes to have someone else to talk to about the struggles of going to school. It always made me feel better when I would hear someone else's story of what they were dealing with, since it made me feel like I wasn't the only person going through it. I was also able to make new friends and had other people to study with who could help explain some of the concepts that were beyond my grasp at the time. For my really difficult classes, I even signed up for tutoring, since I felt like I wasn't getting it. But, come to find out eveyone else was in the same boat - I was just being proactive.

Lastly, as far as getting angry over what will happen next in life, that is a perfectly normal reaction to life's uncertainties. I mean going back to school is tough enough, but throw in there the whole financial committement, deciding if you want to stay with the current job or find a new one, and just trying to balance your school work with your work load can be challenging. So, try to give yourself some credit - not everyone has the determination to go back to school after being out in the workforce. You give up your weekends, you make personal sacrifices regarding your friends and family, and get less sleep (or at least I did). But, in the end I'm very glad I did. I mean I landed my dream job and I absoulutely love what I'm doing now - which I wouldn't even have qualified for without going back to school. So hang in there and try not to be too hard on yourself!
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