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Date Joined Mar 2006
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   Posted 3/5/2006 2:27 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello again all...
      I'm a 24 yr old male, back in college working on a Bachelors of Science degree and quite honestly just feel lost and out of place.  I work full time and take the maximum amount of classes, which people say isn't possible..but I'm getting through it.  Although it's difficult to say the least at times, I often question myself (as I have done my entirely life) about whether or not I'm doing it because I need to, or simply because I wouldn't know what to do with myself if I wasn't busy?  The situation has me complexed because it seems like everybody else has really nice lives and make everything look so easy!  It just leaves me with this feeling of constantly being left behind if you will....Complicated by my memory.  I've always had a difficult time with memory, forgetting why I go in some stores or what I've actually went there to begin with, which makes my current schedule of work and studying even worse!  It's just this constant feeling of the unknown and the insecurity that I think causes me to work all the time, whether or not I really need it.  Everyone says I should stop and enjoy life, which I'm always calm natured, I have a feeling of like I should be doing something else.  An example of which, I could be on a date and instead of focusing on the situation at hand, I'm constantly going over things in my mind which I could be doing at work or at home to keep up with the Jones' if you will...  Crazy I know!!
Anyone have any ideas?
I know there's probably not one right answer, but I guess I'm just looking for something to help me concentrate and focus on one thing at a time....It would greatly help my grades and studying!
yeah   confused

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Date Joined Feb 2006
Total Posts : 87
   Posted 3/5/2006 1:42 PM (GMT -6)   

You have alot on your plate.  Your brain is overloaded with so much information.  Honey, you don't have to keep up with the Jones's.  You have already surpassed them.  You are only 24 and look what you have already achieved.  This would be taxing on anyone.  The smartest people in the world suffer from some memory loss.  They have so much information and knowledge, but couldn't tell you where they put their keys, or what day of the week it is. 

My sister is getting her PhD and masters in the medical field.  You are doing the same thing she tends to do in comparing herself to others and feelings of insecurity.  She has been published many times.  There is a patent pending on one of her discoveries regarding cervix cancer.  You, like my sister tend to compare yourself with your colleages and piers.  But if you look at the big picture and compare yourself to the rest of the world, you will find that you exceed the success of most.  I'm proud of you.  Continue on your path.  You are King Jones, my dear.  People praise you already but you just aren't seeing it yet.  Breath in your successes and don't change the wonderful man you have become.  I applaud you. 

Regarding social situations, it would do you some good to find a source of relaxation.  Pick one day a week (or a block of time), and make it King Jones Day.  Right now your state of mind is work and your studies.  That will be on your mind.  So talk about it a bit... so what.  Don't hide your thoughts.  You have a beautiful mind.  Surround yourself with people that share your intellect, interests and dilligence for success.  

By the way, NO ONE has a perfect life.  We portray only what we wish others to see.  We all share troubles and hard times.  You are definately not alone in this.  Don't let people's fecade full you.  They are no different, I assure you.  Most will look at you and compare themselves to YOU with great envy.  They will think "wow, why can't I be focused and be an achiever like this man(you)".  Many skate through life with no goals.  Of course they seem happy and care free.  I'm very proud of you.  You will do very well in life.


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Date Joined Oct 2005
Total Posts : 200
   Posted 3/6/2006 3:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Well said Kari The only thing I have to add is "the jones life" probably isnt all that greatif you asked them are only 24 you got a long life ahead of you ,you'll be fine

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

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Date Joined Nov 2003
Total Posts : 208
   Posted 3/6/2006 11:17 PM (GMT -6)   

I can't help but wonder if having so much to do serves a purpose. It makes it a lot easier to not look inside.


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Date Joined Feb 2006
Total Posts : 24
   Posted 3/7/2006 8:58 AM (GMT -6)   

I used to worry about what was going on at home while I was at work and when I was at home I used to worry about work.  I would have got alot more done if I would have paid attention to what was going on at the moment.  I still do that but not as much as I used to.  I wonder if I have add.

Maybe you could get some kind of treatment if you see a doctor to see about what is wrong.

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