thank you. you know, hes pushing me away, yet theres a small part of him that wants to stay connected. we dont live together, yet he maintains contact . in the beginning it was calls every morning every night, emails, online each day, since this has started i would say on of all days valentines day, hes gone more and more remote, online maybe 30 min we me. I know the only thing hes said is hes stressed, job wise, family wise,ect..and hes looking back in the past sooo much, digging up all the pessimistic things. One point he says hes going to the doctor..the next ..its when he has *time*. jokingly i told him hes in male menopause of going thru a midlife crisis..I do know what hes going thru the emotions and all.Ive been in a depression..but not to the extent hes in. I didnt push my loved ones away,thats whats so hard and hurts to be honest. Ive tried to explain that reliving the past is not a good thing..the past is what it is and cant be changed so to speak.That its better to look toward the future and the changes that can be made to enhance it. oh and dont worry, i'll be back on here..its good talking to people who understand my perspective of this.. just hope i can get him on here as you say, maybe it would help.