Wow. Same problem here. The root of mine is rejection. I'm afraid of being rejected so I reject first. I'm 38 years old and still worry about
what others think of me also. Always thought I'd grow out of it
. I don't have the answer for you and the only thing I can think of is to
open ourselves up to a few people that we click with and go from there. I still remember a quote from Dr. Phil "You wouldn't worry about
what others thought of you if you knew how little they did."