Hi Shy and Elisha,
I'm so proud of both of you to be able to verbalize what horror you both went through as children. By doing so, you have brought the ugly secrets out into the light and recongized them for what they were, abuse. By telling someone, you no longer are hidden in shame or fear. By all means, you both should seek out a support group, who can understand you. Forget trying to get this message across to your relatives. They weren't there to help you when you needed it most, and probably can't or won't now. Keep on posting here, as there is always someone to listen when you need to vent. By all means, contact your local women's services who can help you out in anyway needed, from physical needs to emotional ones. This was something that perpetrated by my deceased step-grandfather. Luckily, my sister and I were too young to get caught in his trap, but several of my cousins weren't so lucky. He's been dead and buried a long time, but it wasn't until recently that my cousins started comparing notes and we realize that he was a full-blown child molester. I'm sure my grandmother never knew, it was a different time back then. I pray every day for those who weren't so lucky, and I am blessed that my father is such a kind and gentle man.
Please take care of yourselves and keep us updated.