Thanks,cryptictears...she suffers from depression /anxiety....but I tend to agree with you on the bipolar ...from everything I read anyways but like you I am not an expert by any means.
Yoyr situation sounds just like mine except i am married with child.It is very difficult at times,now for example .she went to bed at 8 pm .I gave up trying to wake her or keep her up easier to let her sleep off the negative mood .
One suggestion for you ,you said you want to be a better person for your relationship my advice to you is the same I give my wife
"Take one day at a time ,live each day for the day and to the fullest"....oh yeah and don't worry about tommorow its not here till then .
I know they sound silly but its what gets me thru all the time and works for me and when my wife goes by those quotes she usually has good days too.
I have one question for anyone out there who may know the answer ....my wife realizes she has problems ,takes meds ,doesnt think they are right ones ,she doesnt even think she is diagnosed correct so my question is who do you see for proper identification of illness..family doctor(just a pill pusher in our case )a psychologist or a pshchiatrist she desperatly wants to talk to soomeone but who do we go to ??????