In reading another thread this resonated with me. I did not wish to highjack the thread, so I thought I would start another.
I am great at putting up walls when I am hurt, sad or overwhelmed. Sometimes I see my walls going up,but have no idea how to let them down. I know it can wear on other people's patience. Sometimes, I wish they (dh for example) would fight twice as hard to help me lower the walls. But I can't find the words that say "help me". So I end up twice as lonely, depressed, and even angry.