Confused about my feelings

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Date Joined May 2006
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   Posted 5/23/2006 12:32 PM (GMT -6)   
I don't know if I'm depressed or not but I sure feel down in the dumps. I don't enjoy life anymore. I don't feel like I'm giving all I can in my marriage. I have a job that ain't worth anything. I just don't have it to give. I don't know how to get out of this rut. I don't have the money to go see a phycologist (sp?). I feel like my wife is moving ahead of me and I'm stuck in the same place. She's always laughing with her co workers and then I feel like I bring her down at night. I feel like I'm about to lose her because of the down in the dumps feelings I'm having. Not sure if I'm asking for help or wanting to know if there are other people feeling this way or not. I'm not sure whats wrong with me but it doesn't feel good.

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   Posted 5/23/2006 1:14 PM (GMT -6)   
firstly, hi confused7 and welcome to HW!!

Well, it sounds like depression but i'm not an expert on this. I'm sorry that you're going through such a low feelings. You're not alone, i do feel the same way and i'm sure we're not the only one feeling like this. At first i also thought that i might be the only one who's having such an unusual and strange feelings but now i know there's a lot of other people who feel the same way as i feel. It's a good thing that you come here and talk about your worries. There's many kind and helpful people here. They give warm comfort and wise advice. Don't worry of being judged or ridiculed. Feel free to share or vent your feelings.

wish you feel better. all the best n good luck!

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   Posted 5/23/2006 6:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Ya
i get the feeling that you need a change, ie more new things in your life that will inspire you, if you are in a job that is not inspiring you then that is going to affect you, a lot, its at least ruling your life 8-10 hours a day, and if youre not happy in that, then maybe its time to move towards something better, for you, rather than a better financial situiation, thjough of course that helps,
get involved, learn something you always wanted to, and if you watch TV when you come home from work, try and leave it off for a while, and do something else instead,
take a long walk each day, and be aware of what is around you, notice things especially nature

Im guessing youre in your 30s or 40s, and this is about the time a lot of men and women will question their lives, some move to the country, some take up sky diving, so just get interested in an old dream of their youth, but having the courage to make a few changes may make a big change in your life

I hope this helps

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   Posted 5/30/2006 6:36 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there,

Sounds like the start of depression to me. When I was going through my deepest depression had more since then....but when I had my worst bout I didn't care about TV, or my job, or Gymnastics, or my dog, or talking a shower.

You know something is not right when you don't even care about the things that matter most. Are you able to go see your GP? Maybe just talking about it with Her/Him can help. Maybe there are free counsellors where you are. We get 6 Free counselling sessions in Australia.

Just know your not the only one who has ever felt this way.


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   Posted 5/31/2006 3:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi confused7,

I had similar symtoms to you, but it was a because of playing internet games. i enjoyed internet games a lot more than every other activity like watching TV, hang out with friends... etc . my life was messy because i postpone every thing other activaties so that i have more time to play the game.

I wonder what is causing your deppresion, is it addiction to something you love, or some other reason. your doctors might be able to find a diagnosis and root case for your deppresion.

Took me 3 years on difirent meds until i was perscribed by a doctor ( number 5) to take 6 meds like efexor, welburten, lamictal, ablify, akindole and lithuim. i feel great now, i suffered side effects in the first few weeks but its all gone now.

I hope this helps lets hear from you soon :)
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   Posted 5/31/2006 10:13 AM (GMT -6)   

I think you're in a depression. I say this because you say, "I don't enjoy life anymore." That's a pretty good clue.

Do you have any friends who know you well, you can talk to? Maybe they noticed when things started changing for you.

For me, the depression comes when I don't want to face something. To deal with somethings, I think of what it will be like if I don't face them. I realize it will be much worse if I don't deal with it and it will last a lot longer.

What did you enjoy before the depression set in? Oh, and how long has this been going on?


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Date Joined May 2006
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   Posted 6/1/2006 11:39 AM (GMT -6)   

Hello everyone. Thank you all very much for your replies. I've been doing some research and trying to find out why I'm feeling this way. First off I need to say, I'm not to thrilled about my life right now, but I love my wife very much. Its because of her that I'm trying to find out why I'm feeling this way. I've always had the feelings of depression or feeling like I'm depressed. All my life I've had no account jobs and haven't felt real good about myself. Yesterday my boss called me and told me that business was just to slow and he had to lay me off. Like I needed that right now. I came up with 2 things that might be contributing to my symptoms. One is I have sleep apnea. I don't use the machine you get with it all the time. They say sleep apnea causes depression. And I drink a lot of cokes and they say all the caffiene can cause you to have depression. Needless to say I'm going to wear the machine every night and see if that will help. As far as the cokes, I can't say. Cause they are very addictive and I just cannot let them go right now.  Thanks again for all the replies. Have a good day.

Your right brownleaf. I'm 45 years old. Good guess.


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   Posted 6/1/2006 3:42 PM (GMT -6)   

I am 46 and have gone through much of the feelings you have experiencing right now. It is difficult for anyone on this site to determine if you are depressed even tho much of what you have written gives an indication that you may be. Depression comes in many forms and is expressed in many ways. The best place to start is with your primary care doctor. When I did this, he and I put together a plan that included both medication and talk therapy to address my depression. Ithas worked well for me and I have been able to keep a positive outlook even while going through a difficult divorce. We even agreed the need for medication was only a temporary bridge until I was able to life into a positive perspective through the talk therapy. I am now only seeing my therapist as needed and have started to eliminate the medication. Now everyone's story is different, but just wanted to let you know my story. Please keep us posted on how you are doing.
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