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Dan S
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Date Joined Nov 2005
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   Posted 6/19/2006 11:00 PM (GMT -6)   
This is my second post on this website.  Im a 17 year old male.  I cant quite put my state into words.  My brother is pretty severely depressed.  He is very analytical and very smart, so his mind tends to take him into dark places.  Some of this has rubbed off on me.  I cant help but think sometimes that people are all in on something that I am not in on.  Surprisingly I am pretty adept socially.  People tend to like me right off the bat, however, usually i become nervous or anxious or paranoid and I tend to drive people away.  I dont do this as a defense mechanism or anything, I just try too hard to be liked sometimes.  Additionally, people never dislike me when i push them away...they more or less just become friendly but indifferent.  Im not going to sugar coat my post, I smoked ** for a while and it definitely made me more depressed.  I would become extremely anxious and nervous around people while high.  It came to a point where I simply could not talk to people without being extremely awkward and uncomfortable.  However, the opposite happens when i drink.  Although I have only gotten drunk about 6 times, I always become extremely sociable, and people gravitate towards me.  I literally become the life of any party, and i develop an incredible amount of friends who believe that I am always that cool and great to be around.  All of my anxieties and worries go away and I truly believe that i become myself.  I dont have addictive tendencies so I dont believe I will develop alcoholic tendencies, but my goal is sort of to get myself in a drunken mental state while being sober.  In other words, lose the anxious tendencies without having to drink. 
Post edited due to forum rules and guidelines #1. No discussion of any illegal activity - i.e.: illicit drug use.

Post Edited By Moderator (els) : 6/20/2006 3:32:37 AM (GMT-6)

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Date Joined Feb 2005
Total Posts : 616
   Posted 6/20/2006 4:24 AM (GMT -6)   
hi Dan,

Welcome to our forum, we have a lot of good people here who can advice or help you , I hope you can stay with us,
Have you or your brother seek for help? if not you should talk with your doctor and tell him how you feel, like the anxity, and nervousnes and deppresion that your suffering from. the doctor should transfare you to a psychiatrist , and try to get a diagnosis for you or your brother.

Do you sometimes have panic attacks? Do you think you see things that are not there?

good luck and keep in touch :)
                                                     To be or not to Be

Post Edited (Akram) : 6/20/2006 3:30:00 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 6/20/2006 4:28 AM (GMT -6)   

Hey Dan,  I was wondering if you have ever been to see a counselor or psychiatrist?  If not these are some very good options for you to help get your life together.  You could be dealing with a type of social anxiety disorder or something of this nature.  Drinking and do drugs is not going to help, all it will do is aggravate whatever problems your having now.  There are many prescription medications on the market that a doctor could prescribe to you that could be of some great help to you.  Please do look into getting some professional help.  Also, please no more discussion of illegal is against forum rules.  Thank You.


Judi Bee
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Date Joined May 2006
Total Posts : 18
   Posted 6/23/2006 6:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey there Dan

Im sorry to hear about ur brother, but even more conserned about yourself.
you dont think alcohol is addivtive now, but if u feel u need it now to be more sociable and relaxed, maybe ull feel that that is the only way?
dont forget that the person you are when your drunk is still you.
and you can unlock that person at anytime..because u are in control.

And, the people that you meet when your drunk, im sure that they will
like you just as much the next day, if not more =o)
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