Thank you everyone for your advice.
I was truly a wreck feeling I lost my best friend.
I wrote him an email yesterday asking him how he was doing, then went on to tell him how bad I was doing without him, and If I lost him as a boyfriend I would have to except that but losing him as a friend was too much. I asked if he could give me a call that night. To my surprise I got a response within minutes saying yes he would call me.
When we spoke I said I was willing to take this slow, stop talking about marriage and moving in together, and just try to work on our friendship for now and see what happens. I was honest and said I want more but I not willing to give up on everything, I just can’t handle losing him. He agreed to stay together and said that he did call and make an appointment with a counselor but first he has to see his primary physician.
The problems in our relationship are his withdrawing from everyone, needing multiple weekends to him self, turning off phones and not returning calls. This is very hard to cope with when we live 2 1/2 hours away from each other and are only time together is weekends. He is not just withdrawing from me but also his daughter. In the past he had spent almost every single weekend with all of us together for the last 3 1/2 years. I will keep working on this to bring him back around, I know in my heart if I can it will be worth the entire heart ache.
Thanks for all of your support!!