How can I start my life over at 43

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Date Joined Jun 2006
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   Posted 6/29/2006 9:50 AM (GMT -6)   

I am new to this site. I have been browsing the internet for some kind of jump start to get my life going. I am 43 years of age and have been a recovering alcoholic for 14 years. I have seen tharapists , been on several if not all antidrepressants since the age of 29. I also picked up fibromyalgia along the way. I have been very successful in careers of business and administration without completing high school which I am very grateful for but can no longer work outside the home because of the cronic fatigue syndrom associated with fibromyagia. I have raised 3 great kids oldest being 22 and youngest 16.

I feel that I have no interest at all in any sort of hobby and never did, so you can imagine how mudane my life can be most of the time. I would like some feed back on how I can create a life for myself at this age.

Thank you for listening.


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   Posted 6/29/2006 10:18 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi pudding,  Welcome to healing well forum, we are happy to have you join our great group here.  I can relate in a way as I have Multiple Sclerosis and have recently been diagnosed with an autonomic disorder with multiple heart complications so, I too have had to quit work and stay home.  Fatigue is a huge factor with my illnesses also so getting up the energy to much of anything is a huge task.  I have never been the "arts and crafts" type person either and not much of that interests me.  I have continued to educate myself via the Internet and home schooling which is always a good choice and alternative for people in our positions.  I have trying to walk everyday and get some exercise which seems to help a lot with my energy and endurance level.  Perhaps, if you have some support groups in your area you can look into getting involved in some of those.  My ex mother in-law has fibromyalgia and became active in a group at one of our local hospitals, it helped get her out of the house and out of her husbands hair.. tongue   If you like to read I know bookstores like Barnes and Noble sometimes have book clubs and activities of that sort.  Or the YMCA has a great water stretching class for people with chronic illnesses, so that could also be an option....I don't know if these are the type of things you were looking for but they would get you out of the house and meeting people. 



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   Posted 6/29/2006 11:32 AM (GMT -6)   
I am 43 also and I have crohn's disease so I can relate to the fatigue too. I have become quite a reader to pass some time when I'm feeling bad. I usually get books from the library since it's free to borrow them. I'd like to try painting but haven't yet. I am also trying to start doing yoga again.

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   Posted 6/29/2006 11:40 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi pudding, welcome. Im 38 and finding it hard to get back into life sometimes also, dating, ha....chicken ;) but they had some good ideas, not only b&n but libraries have things too, we have two book clubs at our library, and i teach diff computer classes and such, but i know its hard to get out in the world. But ive taken up meditation, which has helped, yoga or anything to that effect, writing is also something ive tried to do lately.....maybe someday ill be brave enough to share with more than one person what i write lol. Take care and good luck, you will meet many great ppl here :)
" Dwell not on the past. Use it to illustrate a point, then leave it behind. Nothing really matters except what you do now, in this instant of time. From this moment onward you can be an entirely different person, filled with love and understanding, ready with an outstretched hand, uplifted and positive in every thought and deed."
Eileen Caddy

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Date Joined Jun 2006
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   Posted 6/29/2006 1:49 PM (GMT -6)   
Thankyou els,bluemeanies & shell67,

I really appreciated your kind words and advice. You know just sharing my feelings about feelings of major depression which I was diagnosed back in 2004, already makes me feel I can at least identify or be identified with
a little lighter.

Take care 7 I will be talking again.

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Date Joined Jun 2006
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   Posted 7/2/2006 10:59 AM (GMT -6)   
same here 40/f with a 4 yr old son who's very energetic . single ,only child . my mom is a brittle diabetic and my dad just diagnosed with prostate cancer . have a b/f that has pulled away after three yrs which we didn't get to see much of each other for the 45 mins distance , mainly on his off days . i am severely depressed w/ anxiety and now just diagnosed with irritable bowel syndrome . i would love to find happiness and a new start at 40. who wants someone like me is how i feel. people my age have teenagers and i'm just starting . great on your sobriety !!!!!i have lost all my friends and feel all alone.

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