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   Posted 7/12/2006 7:20 AM (GMT -6)   
stronglady4me said...
I'm new here and have been lurking about until now.  I just wanted to add that I have been on Lexapro since last October and have had nothing but good results and no side effects that I know of.  My shrink/counselor and I think that I have genetic tendencies toward low grade depression.  I have had three episodes in my life when I have hit the wall.  It is usually when 4 or 5 stressors gang up on me and it just becomes too much to handle.  The first time it happened was during the first year of my marriage (I won't go into the details) but after 3 months of trying to figure out what was going on, and thinking I must be dying, I ended up in an ER on a military base.  Well, let's just say that I was a low priority (if the military wanted  you to have a wife they would have issued you one, LOL) and I sat around in the ER while gunshot victims and victims of fights and training accidents whirled around me until a doctor was free to see me.  I married a wonderful man but we both had adjustment issues to deal with.  When I saw the doctor I told him everything.  He was very thoughtful and listened very carefully.  At the end he looked at me and said, "This is stress."  I literally went home, told my husband it was his problem (which it was) and that I could not fix it for him and he would have to get into some therapy and deal.  Bless his sweet heart, he did.  By that time I was a borderline agoraphobic, leaving the house was hard but I made myself.  I began an 8 year journey toward health (did pretty well too but with no assistance) and that was 24 years ago at a time when everyone thought you were nuts if you had depression.  I didn't even hear the word depression until that gang attacked again about 8 years ago.  I immediately got help, surrounded myself with professionals that I trust and life has been great. For me the key is having realistic expectations of myself, realizing no one is perfect and absolutely refusing to be in denial about any parts of my life.  I won't, I mean I WON'T let conflict run my life, and I know what is my responsibility and what loads I don't have to carry.   I know that it doesn't always turn out that way but hopefully a good story will inspire/give hope/renew commitments/give strength, whatever we need to support each other.  My ID is in honor of all of all the ladies here who are reaching out. Even if you don't feel strong right now, know that you are because you have taken first steps/refused to give up/share in the support of others.  Here's to you ladies.

Hi stronglady,  I have copied your post into a new thread so everyone will be sure to see it.  It is most inspiring, thank you for sharing it.  You have a wonderful outlook and I am glad that you are able to command your depression and care in such a positive manner.  The best thing anyone who deals with these type of disorders can do is try to seek the help they need professionally...of course, many run into doctors that are detached, medical issues, family, and job stressors and this can make someone feel extremely overwhelmed, no matter how good they are at managing their care.  Healing Well is a wonderful place for information and support, I do hope you continue to post and lend your support and advice.  Welcome aboard.




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   Posted 7/12/2006 10:24 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi stronglady, welcome to hw, you do have a great outlook and we are glad to have you! Life throws us all types of things, its hard to stay strong, but you have done very well, keep posting!
" Dwell not on the past. Use it to illustrate a point, then leave it behind. Nothing really matters except what you do now, in this instant of time. From this moment onward you can be an entirely different person, filled with love and understanding, ready with an outstretched hand, uplifted and positive in every thought and deed."
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   Posted 7/12/2006 11:43 AM (GMT -6)   

Thank you, I sure wish that I had a site like this in 1983. I was completely alone at that time.   It was a long fight back with lots of obstacles.  When I tanked 8 years ago and went to the doctor she was great and gave me my first prescription.  I went out to my car and literally screamed myself horse (tee hee, I bent the steering wheel).  Then I went home and called and cancelled every committee and every board position I had because I realized that they were using me to get their work done but not as committed as I was.  It gave me time to breath.  I went home and told my husband.  I think he was relieved because I know he was worried.  The next hurdle was telling my parents, which I did that night (that is me, taking control of my issue). My mom is extremely domineering and always trys to fix everything instead of just listening.  My dad is a physician in a very traditional sense.  Wow he totally surprised me by listening and getting it.  He completely shutdown my mom and was really there for me.  After that it wasn't a secret (everyone who mattered knew), it gave me strength.  Over the years I have come to view the early time of my marriage as a very powerful one and know that it took incredible strength to keep going during a time when very little was understood about depression and even less compassion was given to those that had the issue.  I have come to see strength in not suffering along with depression but doing something about it, whatever that is and it is different for each of us. Perhaps some of it is because there is more public understanding of depression as a physical disease rather than a mental one, but I don't really care who knows.  No, it isn't everyone's business but if someone knows and judges me out of their ignorance, they are not someone that I need to be with anyway. 

Sorry, these are long posts but these are the things that I never have talked to anyone about because they are old news but I was alone during my recovery (when I say alone, my husband and family were around me but they didn't really understand even though they were there to love me).  I'll be around.

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   Posted 7/12/2006 11:45 AM (GMT -6)   
Useless1, I'm just curious, why the ID?
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