Posted 7/17/2006 10:48 AM (GMT -6)

Hi Luvdee  :-)  .  opening up is a form of counselling in itself.  I know sometimes for me just getting things off my chest helps.  You are definitely going through some form of depression.  Do you have somebody or somewhere to go to talk things through if this goes on too long?

You're went through a very tough year.  I know 3 of my girlfriends who have had abortions have suffered.  They feel terrible guilt and shame and very alone as it's a hard one to talk about as you already know.  I would suspect a little depression with this one is a common.

As far as your parents are concerned.  Not sure what to say as they are still people with people problems.  It's really hard when the 2 that you love hurt each other. 

You also were in the car accident which caused you physical pain.  You've had a triple whammy Luvdee.  Be extra gentle with yourself for a while.  You sound like a great person I'd love to know :-) .


Take care, Softy

Posted 7/17/2006 5:55 PM (GMT -6)

thank you both Elisha and Softy. It's a great relief just talking about it with you guys. I've had all these issues bottled up in me for months. I have friends that would understand, but I guess pride makes me keep them to myself. That's why I would like to get some counselling but I don't know what the first step is. Can I just look up a psychologist online and make an appointment?

Posted 7/18/2006 5:34 AM (GMT -6)
Well, you could go that route if you wanted to but, if you have insurance coverage it may be best if you call your insurance and ask what providers in your area are covered under your plan.  Then they will give you phone numbers and names to call for an appointment.  This way there are no screw ups with it not being covered...


Posted 7/19/2006 7:41 AM (GMT -6)
Hi Luvdee,

I'm sorry to hear the problems you are having.
Your break up, family problems and your recent termination could definatley cause you to feel down and depressed. It would be a good idea to see your doctor for some advice because it would be good for you to get some help and support. Therapy might be useful to you to talk out your problems.

I can understand the guilt and shame you are feeling about your termination as that is a normal respose but no one should ever judge you for what you did as its a very hard decision to make and no one knows the desicion they would make unless they re in that situation themselves. People have to do whats right for themselves at that time.

I'm a nurse and see many women who have terminations and they are all offered counselling afterwards to help them deal with things.

I hope you find support on this site, people here are very supportive and its good to talk to others who have the same feelings as you and know what you are going through.
Good luck with everything and keep in touch

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