Its amazing people who have or don't have anyone in their lives who are depressed or going thur depression. The only thing they can say Is you are handicapping the individual, you're doing everthing for them. A friend told me who went thur the whole depression thing with her daughter, try everything, Hell! cry too, take deep breaths, find a support group and start over again. She also reminded me that some suggestions are just plain stupid. Take what your sane mind is telling you is a good idea and try it. My brother is scheduled to go to therapy Monday, I have been praying that he accepts it and goes and opens up about his anger. If he does not open up, I will cry it out my system, take a breather and try it again. I am truly beginning to understand why many people don't discussed depression. I have to give it 100% he is my brother, my blood, my family. If I don't help no one will.