Hi UFIXEDIT, glad you came back. I think it is very powerful for you and your wife to be here together. If she has stuck by you through as much as you say, I don't think you have to be worried about your honesty here. This is a place that you can "lay it all out" because we are here to help. I can't speak for anyone else but it seems like you may need to be here more than perhaps your wife does. If it really becomes a problem that both of you are here I urge you to talk to your wife about it. Perhaps she would understand?
I have mentioned before that sometimes I get to the point where I just have to laugh. It is better than crying and has wonderful health benefits. Anyway, you typed the sentence, "Like a lot of people I came from a militarty family" and then talked about Dear John letters and other issues that can be prevalent in the military. I know that it was just a typo but it cracked me up. I am an old military wife, been there, done that, got the t-shirt. Laughter is the best policy and you made my day. ....militarty
We all come here because we have something to share and need to either get or give support and acceptance. You have something positive to bring to this place, please keep coming back.